What do men really think of women who have sex with them easily?

[liquidspace]

I have recently ended a nearly 10 yr relationship. I'm 45 and am starting to think about dating. I joined an online dating site and some men on there have openly said they are just looking for sex. I don't know how I feel about this. Doesn't it make all parties just feel sad at the end of the day? I really don't know if this is the "norm" now?

[Booldawg]

not so much a case of 'double standards' as to what is expected from male/female behaviour and the emotional differences between men and women. eg crying; there are very different reactions to a woman that cries and a man that cries; the man is often seen as a wimp and needs to 'man up' whereas an eyelid wouldnt be battered to the womans behaviour.

[liquidspace]

Very interesting answers thanks guys. Obviously we are all free to live our lives the way each of us wants to and therefore we cannot judge anyone.

I don't think I'm desperate to have sex and would genuinely like to get to know someone as a person before I reveal my ace card to them so to speak. I think I want someone to see something more in me than just my body. I think I'd get more out of it.

[Snafu03]

men (generally) tend to be more 'animalistic' when it comes to sex and can seperate emotion from the event. I suppose women behaving the same comes as much as a shock to us as when they started drinking pints. We got used to it in the end.

btw if anyone one here knows of such a women, point her in my direction!

[andy-hughes]

Check out Dawn Porter's 'Diary Of An internet Lover' - she obviously can 'separate' - and she is gorgeous as well, but she's stopped all that now, she's in a steady relationship.

http://www.motorboats...ank/d/dawn-porter.jpg

[cathfromsaron]

yes yucky! go to dating direct and see what you think! tick the box for long-term relationship! in your personal write up you can mention that you are seeking to have friendships and socialise initially, of course, but you are serious about respect and commitment!

i met my husband on there and so did my sister (hers obv lol)!

cath x

[Ankou]

i do not judge women who sleep with me easily. i like it, i enjoy their company, the time spent and the climaxes reached.

its when they bugger of and do it with other men as well that i get a little miffed.

[joeluke]

Some women tend to treat dating like a game, 'how long do I make him wait before I sleep with him?'.....how long is ideal so that he doesn't think you're easy girls? a week? a month? 6 months? a year?

Man fancies woman, woman fancies man, both want to have sex, what's the problem?.....regardless how early in the relationship it is

[Purple_Popple]

Men all want no strings sex, if its offered they will take it, be they married or single - simple. At least make them work for it lol !!

[boxtops]

I can remember the days when you didn't sleep with a bloke until you were at least engaged - the casualness of it all these days makes me rather sad, it's not special any more.

[ummmm]

My OH waited 5 months....bless :-)

[Purple_Popple]

The majority of men I know and who are friends (no I havent slept with my male friends) have all said at one time or another 'if she does the business on a first date, she will do it with any guy' so very true. But its very old fashioned to think that men are 'jack the lad' if they've had lots of women. If you look at it through the animal kingdom, and apes which we are descended from, I dont really think that men were 'made' to be monogamous, if you want monogamy - marry a swan.

[cazzz1975]

so the men that are monogamous must be kidding themselves ;)

[ummmm]

If a man judges a woman for sleeping with them on a first date (or no date) they shouldn't be doing it themselves.

The type of men I go for are the type that wouldn't even try...

[boxtops]

I agree with that, too, Clarion - but if that's becoming as normal as shaking hands, what's left to be special between a couple?

[ummmm]

My attitude is 'so what' also.....It's just not for me.

[cazzz1975]

it will certainly make geneology interesting in a 100 years time, going on this trend marriage will soon be extinct..

[Postdog]

Just want to add a different side to the question, in that when I was looking, I was looking for a relationship, but got fed up looking because of all the women wanting one night stands or affairs. It does work both ways!

[NOX]

If the question is 'do I see women who are sexually liberated and in touch with their own bodies and their desire for recreational sex as trollops' then the answer is no, of course not. Sex is sex and love is love and sometimes you get both together, sometimes you don't, but there is nothing to look down on in those women who are comfortable with just sex and as long as everone knows where tey stand before sex takes place then there is no reason to feel sad, in fact you can end up with some very good platonic friends like that.