Unwanted attention dilema

[EvianBaby]

Since i split up with my ex this guy had been texting me a lot asking me to go out with him. I either responded with a polite thanks but no thanks or just ignored his text completely, pretending id been so busy i forgot to respond.

I thought he had got the message until i received a text this evening asking me out on saturday. Ordinarily i would say 'Fosters off, you're grim' but i cant really do that for two important reasons. Firstly, he is good friends with my brother and other boss at work. Secondly he is also one of the head honchos for our biggest customer and as he frequently helps make sure they pay us large sums of money that they owe us I really dont want to pee him off in case he stops being so helpful in making sure we get paid.

I did tell my brother a while ago but he just thought it as funny and suggested i maybe go out with him but make it clear i just want to be a friend. But, i know from experience he will try it on (despite his fiance in america) and i dont want to be his friend, i dont even like the guy.

I know he can be a real sulky git, gets a strop on when he doesnt get invited to something my bro has arranged, even family things so what should i do to make him get the message without rocking the boat?

[boxtops]

Tell him. He's not free to have a relationship with you anyway, he's engaged back in the US. Tell him that if he doesn't back off, youll tell his fiancée - you don't get involved with people in a committed relationship. Stand your ground. You may have to rock the boat, but if you let him get away with it, he's taking advantage of your position in the company. It's not right.

[China Doll]

Just say no and that you'd really prefer it if he stopped asking you as it makes you uncomfortable since you also work together. I think honesy might be the best in this instance as he's clearly not getting the message so maybe need to spell it out that you're never going to be interested. Either that or just change your number! (Kidding) :c)

[maggiebee]

Sounds like he's taking advantage of the situation. Stand firm with both him and your brother.

[trt]

Tell him you want a long break from any relationships for the time being and you are to busy anyway!

[NoMercy]

Tell him you are seeing someone. End of.

[sunny-dave]

^^^ What NoM said - only add that it's a woman ...

[pdust]

just tell him you dont wanna go out with him... you dont need to explain yourself...... i cant see the fact hes good friends with your brother or head honcho of anywhere should have anything to do with you telling him you arent interested.

[bednobs]

tell him your religion only accepts arranged marriages

[tinkerbell23]

Id either say you are seeing someone, or that you dont want a relationship just now u just want to be single xxx

[NoMercy]

Tell him you'd love to go. Ask him how many hours he would like to spend with you then subtly mention that you accept all major credit cards...

[Sqad]

NoM........LOL

[EvianBaby]

Lol, some of these replies have made me chuckle. :)

I like the idea of telling him my last relationship was such a disaster it turned me to women. And only women who are arranged by my family.

Ive taken a bit of a chickens way out and told him im really busy this weekend with a date on saturday night. With a bit of luck he wont respond.

[NoMercy]

Sqad, I am in A&E with bobjugs atm. He's got a temp of 38.4 and we are worried he's developed post op sepsis :-(

[tinkerbell23]

Awww noM :0( Hugs xx

[joeluke]

Tell him you've got the clap

[woofgang]

tell him you have an unbreakable rule to keep your business and personal lives separate....and hit your brother with a dustbin lid.

[jackthehat]

Don't tell him that you like women.........!!

It just makes the creepiest creeps even creepier........take it from one who knows! :o)

[grasscarp]

You have done exactly the right thing by saying you have a date on Saturday night. This can lead on to, if he keeps pestering you, I have a boyfriend now and am no longer available. And you could jokily add "A bit like yourself!"

[DTCwordfan]

NoM, sorry to hear that and hope Mr Balls is ok.....I had a touch post an op and they nailed it with an antibiotic - pretty impressive, phoned my doc and the prescription ready in 20 mins at Tescos (out of normal hours).

[Eve]

I'd have another word with your brother and see if you can get him to back you up properly too and maybe hard a quiet word if he won't take a hint.

Oh NM, hope he gets it sorted soon, let us know how he's doing x