I still love my ex-wife

[ConfusedMartian]

Have been divorced for a number of years now and have recently been assessing my life and what i have and haven't done. I have in the process done a lot of self reflection and coming to terms with who i actually am. From this i have come to realise that i am still in fact rather deeply in love with my ex wife. I should point out that i was not the best of husbands at the time and left her hurt and confused at the end of it. We have a child together so see her regularly and although i would want nothing more than to be a proper family together, i wouldn't want her to feel obligated for the "sake of the child". What i am asking is how could i approach this subject with her or find out how she may still feel about me whilst being respectful of the fact i have been a **** to her in the past.

[mrs_overall]

ConfusedMartian - joined 1916 hours Wed 21st March

[Sqad]

\\\\I Still Love My Ex-Wife\\\\

Oh! my God.........here we go again.

[tenrec]

Mrs O are you back to full health? I hope so.

[mrs_overall]

Sqad, if you had posted this question I would be asking you "Which one?" lol

[Sqad]

Mrs_O......I love ALL wives.........

[mrs_overall]

thanks for asking tenrec. I'm a bit sore but managed some therapeutic retail therapy this afternoon xx

[sandyRoe]

I hope there's a little place in his heart for each and every one of them still.

[mrs_overall]

lol Sqad....your own and anyone elses lol

[netibiza]

Oh crikey, I think I'm the ex wife as my old partner contacted me before xmas declaring his undying love from 44 yrs ago, is it catching!!!

[tenrec]

Jolly good Mrs O. Keep up the good work.

[ConfusedMartian]

no actual help there guys, am trying to see what people think about the situation and stuff, maybe get a bit of advice, not have the thread hijacked. if you fancy discussing the post that would be great, if you just want to take the mickey and talk about random stuff then please do it on another post

[ummmm]

What's wrong with this question MrsO?

Not really fair turning it into a private chat if it's genuine.

[tenrec]

Sorry, that was totally my fault. I do apologise. (Leaves with head in hands)

[mrs_overall]

Ummmm, does it seem genuine to you?

[Mamyalynne]

Confused - try writing it down and hand it to her, she can then read at her leisure, you may be pleasantly surprised, good luck.

[Sqad]

sqad slinks away ashamed of himself........

[ConfusedMartian]

just to inform, this is a genuine post, i have used AB in the past, i have created a new profile for this question. mamya, i have tried writing it down many times, but as a lot of the issues that affect me and how i was stem from my school days (bullying) to suffering from depression and in denial about it, it is only recently i have come to terms with all of this stuff and through reflection can see how i truly feel about her and how and why i have acted in the ways that i have previously. i have written pages down before now, but it never sounds sincere, just a list of excuses almost. am looking to try and talk to her to see how she may feel and figure out how to broach the subject of my recent epiphany of why i was such a **** and how i truly feel. it is quite a dilemma i can assure you, would really like some friendly advice or pointers

[B00]

I too am confused why people are a) taking the pee and b) having a conversation on what is a sensitive question?

Are we now saying unless you're an "established" user you can't ask such questions?

Martian- how long have you been divorced? Is your ex wife in a new relationship? If so, leave her be.

[ConfusedMartian]

my ex is single and we have been seperated for five years divorced for three. i see her regularly and things have been amicable of late. i have had another relationship since we split but that has ended.

[237SJ]

I don`t wish to sound like a cynic but do you think that you are fixating on your past because you have been assessing your life as it is now and you are not 100% happy with it? Therefore, your past and your past relationship actually seems more rosy than it actually was?