Is That Possible?

[Rana_Mosaad]

Can a guy dump a girl cause she is perfect with him? she is trying to do her best to please him and be good to him and she always avoids fighting no matter how he acts.. she even does nothing to make him angry with her and she does everything he wants her to! Is that a bad thing? i mean do guys hate that? they might be bored or something??

[ummmm]

May as well get a lap dog.

[craft1948]

Why do you continually post on the same subject?

[DaisyNonna]

Nobody is perfect. Perhaps a man might like a woman with a personality, not a slave.

[Leapers]

Maybe he just wasn't that interested in the first place and used that as an excuse to dump her a bit like the 'it's not you it's me' phrase being just an excuse to get out of the relationship but trying to cause as little fuss as possible and make it sound like he is the problem and not her.

[Rana_Mosaad]

craft1948 i am suffering from a heartbreak here if u didnt notice so u can be either nice and just answer or stop being rude and post nothing!

[woofgang]

Rana, walk away from this loser. You only get one life here so don't waste it!

[woofgang]

Your heart is not broken. You can get over this. Loads of people have been dumped before. Stop wailing and get over it.

[hc4361]

Good grief. Stop being a patronising sop and start being your own woman, with your own thoughts, beliefs, ideals, opinions.

STOP putting up with bad behaviour and indifference.

This sort of behaviour is not perfect, it is clinging, desperate, exasperating. I bet you like to regularly analyse your relationship every step of the way, with 'meaningful' conversations that drag on for hours.

Get your own life and become your own person before you get involved with anyone else.

[craft1948]

Nothing.

[ummmm]

I would hate to have a 'yes' person.

I want someone to challenge me. If I'm acting an ass I want someone who has the the confidence to tell me I'm being an ass.

[woofgang]

Guess this is tough love night :-)

[Rana_Mosaad]

i wasnt acting like a slave to him but we didnt have major differences between the two of us so there was nothing to argue about and when he used to do stupid stuff i used to avoid them and not make a big a deal of it cause i HATE fights.. i guess every guy dreams to be with someone like that. cause u know who girls like to fight and make a fuss of everything!

[joko]

agreed. that is not being perfect. its being weak and simpering.

simple fact is, if the feelings arent vthere for you, no amount of being nice to him wil create it.
you need to 'inspire' feelings of love in him...make yourself lovable... and mollcoddling, fussing, simpering etc is not lovable

[Rana_Mosaad]

ok JOKO i loved ur advice :D and how am i supposed to do all that. i really really wants him to love me

[Rana_Mosaad]

want*

[ummmm]

You stick by your principles.

[joko]

try not ti over analyse this - you will not get any sort of satisfactory answer from it. the fact is, quite simply, you are not 'the one'.
there is nothing wrong with you, he just hasnt got enough feelings for you
and nothing you say or do will make him have them... you cannot tell people how to feel or who to love.. it just 'is'
try to move on

[joko]

if you were the one for him, wild horses would not be able to stop him being with you.

its tough i know, but a time will come when you are glad of this anda wondering why you let it bother you so much

sometimes yiu have to sacrifice something you love - to make way for someone you love more

[joko]

also bear in mind, for every secind you waste on this guy, is a second you are missing with the love of your life, the guy who is 'the one' for you... get out there and find him...

i know its not what you want to hear at the moment an its easy for me to say... but its true.. ;in time you will see it

[Rana_Mosaad]

i know that letting him go i what am supposed to do :S but i cant!! i just cant :S i've been trying to fall out of his love for more than 3 years and am still so crazy about him