Broken Heart

[numnut1]

After thinking that i had found the one only to find out yesterday been cheating on me. I am devastated the pain is physical, can hardly breathe - please how can i ever feel normal again

[Anngel123]

So sorry to hear about your troubles. Spend some time doing things you enjoy. Meet up with friends and discuss the good times. Eat food you like and take a little drink...Weather the storm. It will get easier. Hugs.

[maggiebee]

Maybe better to find out sooner rather than later. Annge has given some good pointers for you to follow. Life goes on and there will be that someone special out there, you just haven't met him yet.

[numnut1]

thank you so sweet made me cry x

[gness]

Numnut. So sorry for how you are feeling. You will be as lucky as I was. Felt just like you then met the most wonderful man and had thirty great years. No help to you now I know. You can only go with the feelings until you heal.x

[Prudie]

It's unbearable isn't it but most of us have been there. You'll feel dreadful for a while and then maybe an angry phase but really it will get easier and the pain will go away in time - think of it like a bath emptying, seems slow at first but ends with a big rush at it gurgles down the plughole!

[NOX]

All good advice so far but to add time is a wonderful healer and you will come to see that you've had a lucky escape from someone who's not for you. As the others said just treat yourself, understand that's normal and perfectly expected to be as upset as you are but that it will get better. Much love and hugs to you.

[woofgang]

Think that he is not worth your pain.

[numnut1]

thank you for your beautiful comments im crying as i type but to me he was my everything x

[cathfromsaron]

sending love!

we have all been there and time is a great healer!

[numnut1]

cant even imagine being with anyone but him x thank you so so much for your comments so wonderful x

[Purple_Popple]

Was your now 'ex' a work collegue ? If so things are going to be a bit awkward at work ? I do feel for you and am so sorry he has been messing you around but never a wise move to date someone you work with - at least you have only been seeing him for 6 months and not longer.

[237SJ]

Just try to get out and about and be with your friends as much as possible. You wake up in the morning and your situation is the first thing you think about and it hits you. A little while later you wake up in the morning and a couple of minutes go by before it hits you. Then one day you wake up in the morning and you don`t think of him at all. Time heals everything.

[numnut1]

purple he was a work colleague we are both managers in a large retailer i got moved to another store due to our relationship x the move for me was seen as a 'promotion' x well lost my store i loved and the man i loved x

[Officialusername]

Num...I was in this position when I was with my bloke of three years & he done the dirty on me. At the time, I felt like you did; heart broken, upset, angry, frustrated. I went through a whirl wind of emotions and although at this given time you won't feel like it, but, you will overcome this. You will learn to forgive & forget or move on, hopefully the latter. While it is not a nice thought, remember, millions of couples experience heartache, divorce, cheating etc. Know that you are not alone, and there are other who can sympathise with you. The best thing for you is to get your life back on track. What helped me? I got my hair cut, I had my nails done, I went on a diet, I hung out with my friends, I was rarely alone, and when I was? I kept busy. I baked cakes, went to the gym, read a book, went a bike run, wrote my long distance friends letters, I remember having a pamper night myself (facemasks and wine and a bubble bath and a dvd). Remember this guy was not your life, he was part of, and getting over him and away from the relationship you had is easier when you start living and making yourself happier without him. It gets to the point when you wake up and think to yourself 'How happy am I without him', which leads you to start living a happier life. You will feel normal, give it time. Please, leave this guy. I accepted excuses and took my ex back, but once I took him back, he knew I would tolerate him cheating again, which he did. walk away & have self respect. You will meet someone better and when you do? You'll wish you didnt waste your tears on a horrible guy! Good luck

[grasscarp]

Wise words officialusername.

[numnut1]

Official thats amazing. i seen him tue for the make or break talk, after a lot of tears hugs i ended it. How can i ever trust him again? i made it perfectly clear as to what he has lost i adored that man gave him my soul. Yesterday was the worst day of my life i felt like i was grieving, grieving for the man i lost the future we had planned to me my future now seems to be an empty endless void. i am also so very bloody angry that at 41 years of age im feeling like this. im broken but im determined to heal. im existing for now living min by min but by god im going to get better!! Had to laugh this morning he texted says hope i slept well and try to have a nice day!!! Ijust want to say thanks for all your beautiful comments!! Hey its great for the waist line already dropped a dress size to an 8!!! wouldnt recommend it thou! thanks guys love n hugs xxxxx

[jacpinetree17]

officialusername. great answer for numnut. It was done 2 me years ago and at the time there was nothing worse, so i do sympathise. please numnut keep reading officialusernames thread and it wil get better even tho now u just think it never will. lots of hugs jpt xxxxxxxxxx