How can someone be 'content'

[Purple_Popple]

when they are with someone they dont love, someone they have no passion with or someone they dont even feel attracted to ? I dont understand.

[tonyav]

Blimey PP, thats a bit deep isn't it.

[rockyracoon]

Relationships are very complex, what some people put up with, others wouldn't.

[maggiebee]

Purple Popple, my grandaughter plays your game when she comes to stay with me! Maybe better the devil you know??

[Hopkirk]

Probably because they get their shreddies washed, and food magically appears in the fridge.

[B00]

Why do you need to understand?

If it works for them, leave them to it, concentrate on your own relationship.

[Purple_Popple]

This guy I have known, and met recently, why does he want to be in my company and be deceitful behind his partners back ? They dont live together though. I just find it very odd, he says she is 101% genuine and the nicest person he has ever known, yet what is he doing that she doesnt know about ?

[Prudie]

I did when I was younger because I didn't know any different. Since then life has been a rollercoaster. Still not sure if I was happier when content but disinterested.

[Purple_Popple]

Why moan to me about how he wishes he felt the same for her as he does for me ?

[grasscarp]

Maybe because they have their bills paid by this other person. Or they are getting their passion elsewhere. All kinds of reasons. There are probably millions not in a good relationship but inertia sets in!

[Hopkirk]

He will do the same to you one day.

[rockyracoon]

Many people say they don't love their OH's so the can start an affair, they're not always truthful. Or have I got the wrong end of the stick?

[Tilly2]

Sometimes it's easier to let things be. Some people don't like change.

[ladybirder]

Why moan to me about how he wishes he felt the same for her as he does for me

Oh no, not that old line, it's as old as the hills. Beware.

[Purple_Popple]

RockyRacoon, I think you have hit the nail on the head here! Im not naive but he wont get anything from me...they will say anything if it will get them what they want. Probably just a relationship that has gone stale and he needs to grow a pair if he wants to change things.

[missnemesis]

>>> when they are with someone they dont love, someone they have no passion with or someone they dont even feel attracted to ? I dont understand <<<

Oh please PP don't fall for all that ^^^ BS. He's trying to have his cake and eat it and you'd be mad to fall for his lies.

If you do however, remember what goes round comes round.

[joko]

its a common trick cheaters do to make you feel extra special - and to hint as though he may think you are 'the one' - in order to twist you round his little finger -

he will moan that she doesnt understand him, and he just doesnt feel the same any more ... hes made a terrible mistake getting involved with her - he thought he loved her until he met you... because now he knows what 'real ' love is .... but he's trapped by it all and shes just too nice and he simply cant leave her because she'll be upset and he cant do that to her ... even though its you he really loves ...

ad nauseaum

[woofgang]

Simple answer to paraphrase what most people have said he is a lying cheating git.

[tonyav]

Say it how it is woofgang, don't hold back now lol.

[jno]

he is lying to someone. You don't need to worry about which one it is.

[Noraq]

....what woofgang said.