Do I ask if we're just friends?

[EvianBaby]

So I've been out with this guy a couple of times. We seem to get on really well and he texts me all the time. Thing is I can't work out if he's actually interested in that way and maybe just not very forthcoming or if he feels like he's just made a new friend. I kind of want to know if I'm flogging a dead horse and avoid making a tit of myself but as we've only known each other a few weeks is a bit much much if I just come out and say what's the deal?

Jees, I feel like I'm bloody 16!

[ummmm]

Have you snogged him yet?

[factor-fiction]

Maybe he's thinking the same about you. Why don't you make the first move? I'm about 30 years out of touch though

[Old_Geezer]

I was just wondering why he had to be clear how he felt first. If you would like to make things clearer between you why should you not be the first to 'put their heart on their sleeve' and risk embarrassment ?

[tonyav]

Ask him straight out, Evian. Lifes to short for faffing about.

[Psybbo]

No, just enjoy and take it slowly!

[tonyav]

The voice of reason ^^^^^

[EvianBaby]

No ummm :(

Because I don't want to make a prat out of myself.

[cathfromsaron]

i would say 'where do you see us going'? and leave it open ended!

cath x

[tonyav]

Why do you think that then, Rubes.

[Psybbo]

No, not reason, slowly slowly catchy monkey

[Myriad2112]

Go out for a drink with him and ask him after a bottle of wine or three.

[EvianBaby]

Well I think I've shown him that I'm interested but I don't want to ask him out again because if he sees things differently then ill feel like a nob.

Just can't decide if diplomatically asking him what his thoughts actually are is a bit bunny boiler.

[EvianBaby]

Pah! I dunno why I ask you lot, you just confuse me even more ;)

[NoMercy]

So he hasn't attempted to kiss you or hold your hand at all?

[ummmm]

It's hard because you've only known him a few weeks. I'd give it a few more weeks/dates if I were you.

[EvianBaby]

That's what I thought, too soon. But I've sort of given him opportunities to suggest we go out (I can't bring myself to do it) and he hasn't. So I figure he's not that keen but then don't get why he texts me so much. If I knew he just wanted to be mates I'd be good with that as he's a nice guy but I'd just know whether to flirt with him or not. Lol

[tonyav]

Well you wont know unless you ask, Evian !. Has he not sent you any texts or gave you any reason to think that he is not interested ?.
hey sibo, you women are very crafty.

[Psybbo]

Flirt with him Evian do you see how many of us flirt wth tony on here?

[ummmm]

I'd be inclined to give it a few more dates. He might be thinking the same as you but there's only so many dates you can go on without trying for a snog.

[factor-fiction]

I agree it's best not to rush things but if you are keen and have only seen each other twice in what seems to be about 2 weeks I think you need to maybe see how it goes if you seem him twice a week.
Are you certain he's not already in a relationship and that's why he's not seeing you that often?