Does The No Contact Rule Work?

[Dreamsandlove]

Has anyone tried it....did it work to get them back?!

[ummmm]

How old are you?

It could go either way to be honest.

[scorpiojo]

Do you want him back?

http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/Relationships-and-Dating/Question1498753.html

[ummmm]

I'm in the camp of not playing games. Say how you feel or you'll just prolong the agony.

[Dreamsandlove]

I just wondered if he will ever regret his mistakes and come back

[ummmm]

He might do.

What kind of relationship is/was it? I assume you don't live together or have children.

[Bertrum]

I think you deserve someone better

[Dreamsandlove]

No children. We did live together, don't anymore. He tells me he still loves me just can't be with me anymore. He deleted me from FB too the other day saying he couldn't stop looking at my profile picture and can't bear to see me with another guy. As I know he's texting another girl so I think he thinks I'm moving on.

[ummmm]

You're hurting and he's playing mind games.

Do you really want him back?

[Dreamsandlove]

When they nhs wasn't bad he did make me feel loved. I'm all over the place. I do know if he did love me he'd not treat me this way

[ummmm]

Did you actually see the messages he sent?

You have to ask yourself if you could ever trust him again. Living with doubt, always having that niggling insecurity in the back of your head day after day is soul destroying.

It might not feel like it now as you're emotionally down but if you get him back you could end up feeling ten times worse.

[Tilly2]

Facebook seems to cause a lot of stress to people.

[tonyav]

He's a player, Dreamandlove. Trust me you'll be better off without him.

[woofgang]

He has got you on a piece of string....and dating or relationship rules are so much carp unless they are 1.be kind and 2. be honest. Kick him to the kerb and stop wasting your life.

[ummmm]

I think it's initial reaction. It's a pride thing.

If, in situations like this, we allow ourselves to properly think instead of pining we'd get to conclusion of 'they're not worth it' much quicker.

It's very hard at the beginning though.

[Dreamsandlove]

I wrote this days after a break up. I didn't have enough time to digest it all. Now I'm away from him I'm over it. I'm ten times better after only a few weeks and I've learnt my worth. Too good for players.