For Females Only: Can It Be Possible That You Can Fall In Love With A Male This Flawed? Or Do You Think That Man Should Never Be In A Relationship?

[MM305]

- Isn't known for having airhead/idiotic tendencies,

- Grew up with any speech/mental disabilities or obstacles,

- Does not have the luxuries to live a normal adult life (license, car, job, money, house) and is not able to physically attract folks because of not having these luxuries and no being considered good-looking

- Was never incredibly popular in School because they did not have the skills in any popular major (for example, sports or music),

- Doesn't listen to the music that happens to be considered "the cool thing" for everyone else and instead listens to the music that would get them bullied, and that individual isn't physically and mentally strong and/or capable of defending themselves for any assault

Does that man has a chance of striking a relationship with a female? Or do you think that man should never be in a relationship?

[Mozz71]

Honestly, I'm not a female, but I've dated a few. There is one thing stopping women from liking you, and that is the fact you dislike yourself so much. If you can alter that, you might have a chance. Confidence is a big winner with the ladies.

[MallyJ]

Depends what you consider important in a partner.....being kind, thoughtful, considerate etc are much more important than being able to play an instrument or have a car (public transport is usually enough) What you were like at school has no bearing on whether women will like you whereas being able to listen and offer a hug at appropriate times is far more important. Being arrogant is never attractive! Some qualities that I consider important may not be by other women but I am uninterested in men who are desperately popular (they would be out a lot !) or who love sports and worse still watch it on tv all weekend! I really think there is someone for evryone out there

[Old_Geezer]

https://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/members/mm305/

You need to get a grip. You aren't going to "send out vibes' saying you are a good choice to get to know if you don't like yourself first. Stop brooding on your idea of unfortunate characteristics when another might decide they make you more interesting.

Failing that, join a club for apiarists. I hear that beauty is in the eye of the bee holder.

[LadyCG]

Non one wants to date a deadbeat, get a grip, grow up and stop loving in a fantasy bubble.

[woofgang]

there are books https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/think-act-be/201609/therapy-without-therapist

free or cheap online resources https://moodgym.com.au

But you have to be motivated to do it.....you have to want to change....and the change won't be about what others think about you, it will be what you think about yourself.

[Zacs-Master]

I suspect theOP is asking ‘for a friend’. A hem.

[mallyh]

you list all your faults ,why not list your good points ,are you kind ,what music do you like etc

[Mozz71]

Mally, noooooo, don't get him started on the music he likes! That's one of his darkest shames. He'll go full Eeyore on you!

[woofgang]

ZM, the OP has been honest in the past that he is asking for himself

[Mozz71]

Yeah, I think he's asking for himself, but I'm afraid that the OP is either clinically depressed or desperate for attention. If it is the former, he needs to (but refuses to) get help, if it's the latter, he's a sad case who we shouldn't pander to.

[Apc2604]

There is someone out there for everybody. Don't dwell on what you perceive are your faults. And don't try and change the fact that you may be different to your peer group. You are what you are. You may need to get help from a counsellor to gain confidence.

[MM305]

If I was desperate for attention Mozz, you would see a lot more posts from me on a daily basis (and on more controversial subjects).

This is a question asking females if a male has a shot if when they have all this going on with him, or does that male has zero shot and should just give up hope.