My freak of an ex..

[Goodsoulette]

was giving me a hard time over anything and everything till recently. Now he is dating a girl. Brilliant I thought, til I found out who. Its a girl who looks so much like me, this is the only reason I know who she is. Regularly people have asked me if the girl that works at such and such is my sister. So I went and had a nose at her place of work and was struck with that rare moment when you realise you look like someone. Why? why would anyone date someone who looked like an ex? I couldnt do it! Am I being a bit paranoid and maybe he just goes for that type?

[Ethel]

Don't worry about it - it's perfectly normal!

Everyone is attracted to a type - and your ex fancied you because you are his 'type'.

It is no surprise that his next girlfriend looks like you.

What is more worrying is that you care enough to go snooping about at this girl's place of work! Why do you care who he is seeing?

[sophie_1003]

that is a bit weird, but it may be that he does genuinely like this girl and maybe he just doesnt see a similarity

[Eve]

I guess if he found you gorgeous then he'd find her phyisically so too hon but i can see why you'd be a bit freaked out though as I guess you worry about obsessive types and such.

If it means he leaves you be for a bit then so much the better, enjoy it while it lasts :) xxx

[Goodsoulette]

ah...Ethel. You get me all wrong, I have been with him for about 5 years and this girl was pointed out to me about 3 years ago, it was then that I went into her work (which is a public place) to se who she was.

[Goodsoulette]

oh and sophie when he came to see the kids he told me she isnt disimilare to you. So I said her name (which I know cause I know her brother who yes looks a lot like mine) and he said yeah its her.

[noxlumos]

If it's any consolation my wife's ex, whose the father of her son, looks quite a bit like me,or rather I look like him, so it isn't unheard of even where there isn't any weirdness involved. I think ethel is right, she's probably just his type although I know you've had big issues with this bloke's behaviour. Try not to worry and see how it all pans out.

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, i think maybe you should just forget about who he is dating and move on. After all, you are split up, so it shouldnt be any concern if she looks like you or is younger and more beautiful, or is a lot more fun than you, and if she makes him laugh and has better times together than you two did. I dont think he has gone out purposely and found someone else who looks like you. People are attracted to different people. Personally, i think you are a little jealous and have never really got over him. I think you should just try to move on and accept that things are over between you two, otherwise you will grow bitter...

[Goodsoulette]

MrBen...you have no idea how glad I am he is out of my life. This a guy who broke my arm and just beat me up regularly. He is the father of my kids so I still have to see him, which is when he uses that time to tell me how much he loves me and wants me back. This is why his choice of girlfriend has freaked me out.
Seriously I have been dating and enjoying it... I do not want him at all!"

[Pippa68]

As the others have said, he must have a specific 'type'.

Mr Ps ex looks nothing like me, and he looks nothing like my ex..which begs the Q...why? lol.

Funnily enough my ex's new wife changes her hairstyle every time I do, which I find amusing. One day I might dye it bright pink and cut it into a mohican just to see if I am imagining it ;o)

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, then i dont understand why you are so bothered what his new girlfriend looks like. If you have moved on, then why still feel the need to actually have conversations with him and worry about who he is seeing. I admire you for leaving him, and i understand you have a child together, but someone as violent as that shouldnt really be left alone in the same room as you...

[gsxr1100tony]

I understand why you needed to look at this girl, curiosity and all that, but most of all for yours and your kids sake WELL DONE FOR LEAVING HIM.....it takes a lot of guts to break a relationship with someone so violent so congratulations and enjoy yourself.....