Heartbreak is making me feel like a crack pot!

[Zuny]

Im sooo fed up of longing for my ex, but im still doing it.. ?! I think I have a whole load of association issues going on! Its been months since we split (about 9 !) and I have just started to ease myself back into the world of dating.. but all I can do is compare them to the last.. (very unfair!) as you will probably have worked out I didn't break it off it was him! How do you get someone out of your head? I just want to be able to forget about him and move on; but I just have urges to call/text or email him (which I gave into not so long ago �he was very polite and nice but you could tell he just wasn't interested!) why cant women compartmentalise like you boys do? Anyone else feeling slightly crackers today?

[kate1976]

There is no set time limit for these things it just depends on the person! Some can get over people instantly, others, like yourself, take longer!

At least you're back in the dating game so that's a start, maybe just enjoy your freedom for now and don't think of the dates as dates if you see what I mean!

Delete his number from your phone so you can't text him or phone him. Sadly heartbreak is a part of life and I know it's hard (having been through it once or twice) but you will get over it in the end!

Men are heartless critters who don't care about splitting!! (only joking fellas, I know it hurts for some of you too)

Good luck and keep your mind occupied on other things instead of him! It's his loss and he's probably done you a favour in ending things as mr right can now be free to be with you! ;~)

[raysparx1]

Hi Zuny, You aren't crackers,what you are going through is perfectly normal as kate says you can't put a time scale on when you will feel you are over him,it is similar to a bereavement,that may sound a bit drastic but I do think it is a fact, it was easier for him because he was the one that wanted to part,you will compare all to him that is natural you have alot of happy times in your memory bank, when I broke up with my girlfriend it took me about 9 months to start to feel normalish, I never thought I would smile let alone be happy, but we got back together after a year, but I will never forget that pain,all you can do is take each day at a time, the smile will return,and each date with somebody new is a step on ther road to a new life, you will never forget him, but as the weeks go bye it will get easier,try to think positively and when you think of him try to remember the bad bits cos there must have been a reason for the break up, wishing you a far happier new year than the one you have just had, take care, Ray xx

[Amiira]

Hi Zuny, well I am very recently out of a long term relationship. And can totally empathise with you on the longing bit (and feeling a bit mad at times) But the way I am dealing with it, is to think. Well he has moved on. So why am I sat here, thinking about him.

You really have to be tough on yourself. No amount of longing, or thinking about him, will get you back together (thats what I tell myself also)

But you are back out dating. So thats a step forward. Good on you girl.

Look forward to 2007.

Wishing you lots of luck x