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Should store managers 'hit on' their Saturday staff?
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I know a member of manager of a large supermarket chain (Tesco), he is 30 years old, and although divorced is no longer interested in ladies his own age. He seems to consistently pursue the 16 year old Saturday girls.
Is he abusing his position as their manager, or am I just being 'old fashioned' in believing he has a duty of care and responsibility towards his junior members of staff, which are still at school?
He does not appear to have any female friends of his own age, so tends to socialise with the 'school-set'..
He did once complain to me that he has been moved from several strores for getting into physical relationships whith staff, yet this does not seem to have detered him. I have suggested he 'stay out of kindergarten', but he has ignored my warnings and still charms the youngsters with his fast car and senior position.
Should I contact Tesco Headoffice or should I leave well alone?
Is he abusing his position as their manager, or am I just being 'old fashioned' in believing he has a duty of care and responsibility towards his junior members of staff, which are still at school?
He does not appear to have any female friends of his own age, so tends to socialise with the 'school-set'..
He did once complain to me that he has been moved from several strores for getting into physical relationships whith staff, yet this does not seem to have detered him. I have suggested he 'stay out of kindergarten', but he has ignored my warnings and still charms the youngsters with his fast car and senior position.
Should I contact Tesco Headoffice or should I leave well alone?
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Tricky situation. I think you're right - he does have a certain level of 'duty of care' to his staff, and they deserve to be able to go about their work without their line manager hittin on them!
It sounds to be like he got his fingers burned in the divorce and now seeks female attention that is totally none threatening and 'stroking' his ego. But someone may get hurt, and it's unlikely to be him, and subconsciously (or consciously) he know this, and that's probably part of the attraction.
Is there anyone at work (superior to you) that you can confide in? It sounds like you've tried to warn him, but he takes no notice. If you sure of what of you're witnessing (and not being influenced by talk of his past misdermeanours) then perhaps you should inform someone. But be very sure of what you're saying, if it's just gossip etc you're going on, you could be ruining someone's career chances.
It sounds to be like he got his fingers burned in the divorce and now seeks female attention that is totally none threatening and 'stroking' his ego. But someone may get hurt, and it's unlikely to be him, and subconsciously (or consciously) he know this, and that's probably part of the attraction.
Is there anyone at work (superior to you) that you can confide in? It sounds like you've tried to warn him, but he takes no notice. If you sure of what of you're witnessing (and not being influenced by talk of his past misdermeanours) then perhaps you should inform someone. But be very sure of what you're saying, if it's just gossip etc you're going on, you could be ruining someone's career chances.
Sorry I strongly disagree. As long as the ladies in question are over 16, I really don't think it's any of your business to be honest. They are above the age of consent and it's up to he and the girl in question what they do or don't do. He's also not ancient himself we'e talking about what a 12 or 14 year age gap. It's hardly huge and I think you'd be best to leave it alone.
If his advances are unwanted, then it's for the girls he approaches to complain about him not you. I'm assuming by your post that you'd have no problem with him having a relationship with someone his own age. If that's the case you are simply imposing your morals onto someone else's life, which is quite simply a very wrong thing to do in my opinion.
If his advances are unwanted, then it's for the girls he approaches to complain about him not you. I'm assuming by your post that you'd have no problem with him having a relationship with someone his own age. If that's the case you are simply imposing your morals onto someone else's life, which is quite simply a very wrong thing to do in my opinion.
Just about every company I have worked for has had some form of "romance clause" in the contract. Which normally says its ok to be involved with someone you work with but they have to be on the same level as you. Its hard to keep feeling out of the workplace, I would leave well alone, if you feel he is abusing his position by getting these girls to sleep with him or treating other staff differently (either better or worse) then is the time to complain. I dont think the age gap is the problem, thats between him and whoever he is chasing.
Well you see j grizza, the age of consent law is called that because that's the age at which the law thinks a person is capable of choosing their romantic partner, so quite why do you feel you know better?
As for my own children, if my 16 year old daughter came home with her 30 year old boyfriend, it would entirely depend upon the individual man what I thought of him. It's called not having antiquated kneejerk reactions that idsolate your children from you. My sister's husband is ten years older than her and they've been married for 35 years and a nicer man you'd not meet.
You have to respect these girls rights. They have a right to engage or not engage with this man if they so wish. They are not children to be dictated to by strangers.I can't believe how many people think it's ok to treat them as if they have no rights or say in the matter. Really appalling.
As for my own children, if my 16 year old daughter came home with her 30 year old boyfriend, it would entirely depend upon the individual man what I thought of him. It's called not having antiquated kneejerk reactions that idsolate your children from you. My sister's husband is ten years older than her and they've been married for 35 years and a nicer man you'd not meet.
You have to respect these girls rights. They have a right to engage or not engage with this man if they so wish. They are not children to be dictated to by strangers.I can't believe how many people think it's ok to treat them as if they have no rights or say in the matter. Really appalling.
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Porfavour. Your totally right. this guy is abusing his postion. these 16 year old kids dont know any different. He is exploiting them. If he was just a normal worker, i would say there is not as much harm. but with him being a manager, he has responsibilities to go with that job. He should know that these school kids would love what he is offering, and it could be that he is loving the power he gets over them.
Men like this are dangerous, at his age and his job he should be looking for women a littel older. I would report him to his senior manager but not get involved yourself. Just tell him your concerns, and let them monitor the situation.Make it clear to his boss thougfh that you wish to remain annonymous.
Its guys like this who go on to abuse, rape, etc. Do your bit and express your concern. This country needs more aware people like you around...
Porfavour. Your totally right. this guy is abusing his postion. these 16 year old kids dont know any different. He is exploiting them. If he was just a normal worker, i would say there is not as much harm. but with him being a manager, he has responsibilities to go with that job. He should know that these school kids would love what he is offering, and it could be that he is loving the power he gets over them.
Men like this are dangerous, at his age and his job he should be looking for women a littel older. I would report him to his senior manager but not get involved yourself. Just tell him your concerns, and let them monitor the situation.Make it clear to his boss thougfh that you wish to remain annonymous.
Its guys like this who go on to abuse, rape, etc. Do your bit and express your concern. This country needs more aware people like you around...
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