girlfriend problems

[Random_hero]

me and my gf are going through a tough stage. well...were not really going out atm. how do i explain it?! she has these...mood swings every now and again. she starts blameing me for stuff i havnt done, then after a while she calms down and appoligeses. now, our relasionship is great and im pretty sure were actually falling in love. but the thing is, she has split with me twice so far and we only dated for two weeks. she split because she doesnt like being moody. this has happend to her before with a previous partner that said he could handle it but changed and started to shout at her. what could i do to help this matter and concentrate on building a good relasionship?

[Amber1571]

Hi Random_hero,

Is your girlfriend depressed? I don't know who old she is, but if she is having 'unexplained' mood swings - even mood swings she cannot understand, maybe she is a bit low and slightly depressed?

[ummmm]

Or the classic symtoms of PMT ? ?

[Random_hero]

nah its not pmt. its just random things that **** her off and she will get depressed. im 18, she is 16, 17 soonish. she cant find the answer to these mood swing things and neither can her coucilor person, but it also seems like she cant open up very well. i need to enter her mind...but how???

[curlyfilm]

sounds like my wife, well most of me previous girlfriends too

[knobbynonuts]

oh dear, your the only 1 who can sort things out you cant get help from other ppl

[Random_hero]

thanks for everyones help.

[porfavour]

Hi Random_hero, you say your gf is having counselling for her moods. You also mention that this happened with a previous bf of hers.
Is she only like this with the person she is in a relationship with or does she get moody and fly off the handle in other situations (school/work/family)?
The reason I ask, is I think she might be insecure. As soon as she is shown affection and care, she has to 'test' it. It's like pushing the 'self destruct button' because she feels 'its too good to be true' - an unstable childhood, like maybe one of her parents leaving or death of a close relative could have affected her and now she is scared of getting too attached to anyone.

If that is not the case, it could be hormonal, not the period part, the part of growing up that happens in your head when you realise you are becoming an adult. I've yet to meet anyone that doesn't admit to being a pain when they were teenagers. It usually involves telling your parents you hate them, slamming doors and falling out with friends (ever seen Kevin and Perry?).
If she is feeling this way, she probably doesn't like herself much, so wonders what you see in her.
The fact that she apologises shows that she knows she is in the wrong,
Maybe you should be a bit stricter with her, when she starts 'having a go' walk away and tell her you will see her again when she wants to be nice. Or see her less often, so that she looks forward to seeing you and feels less like taking you for granted.

Sounds like you really like her. Good luck.

[Random_hero]

porfavour- thank you so much for your answer. as it stands, were not dating now and she is just not for me. not too long ago she took the wrong step in getting a little too drunk and had her way with two guys. im not too happy, but you no what...sod her...there are too many better girls out there to b hanging around with the hope of getting back with her. i really thank you for your answer though, and its nice once in a while to hear from people as nice as you so thanks and i hope you get this messege. x x x