old flame?

[charlotte247]

okies so here goes, i was seing this guy, a few months back, he was older than me and he had a son, i met him through a freind and he is her cousin, they are from bolivia, i lost my virginity to him, but he dumped me on my bday! (harsh i know)
but he said it was for the best, so i thought ok maybe its me, then a few days later, he called me to apologise for the way he had treated me, told me he loved me etc, and that he had to go back to bolivia!!! i was so upset, he has been emailing me nearly every day, im confused, does he still like me? if so, i love him still but i dont want t oget hurt, any advice?

[yummymum]

Im sure this is hard for you as he is the one who you lost your virginity to but you really shouldnt hold out for this guy, I dont doubt your feelings but a lot off women would love to stay with the first person they slept with and it be all happy endings but it rarely is, Look at the big picture here, he dumped you on your birthday, then decided to mess with your head by telling you he loved you but was moving back home! now he is still messing with your head by keep emailing you even though you cant be together. My advice would be to move on meet neew people, explain to this guy that if he comes back over and your still available then you can start again by being friends and seeing what comes of it. If he does have strong feelings for you he will be happy to let you get on with your life and when and if he comes back to live here then to take it slow and show you the respect you deserve. Maybe over time you will forget about this guy maybe you wont, what ever is meant to be will be. Good luck

[lizzydrippin]

Totally 100% agree with the sound advice from yummymum, . Hope you were having safe sex when you made love with this guy. I think he treated you really shabbily by dumping you on your birthday. You will fall in love again and maybe next time it will be with someone who genuinely cares for you and wouldnt dream of hurting you.

[LostStar]

Totally agree, but it's best to try and draw the line and getting out there to meet new people is a good idea. If you are meant to be together and he really loves you, things will eventually work out and and you'll end up together - be it 1 year from now or 10 years. By getting out there and meeting others, you'll see whether or not he really is that great. Take care of yourself.x

[charlotte247]

awww thanks guys!
sound advice!
xx

[Opiates]

Hey girl,

Its hard dating people that we are not familiar with, culture etc.

Boy are some of them handsome though, so very romantic too.

But I think he did it because he just didnt want to hurt you anymore and he didnt want to hurt either knowing that he has to go back. Lets say if it got really serious, both of you would eb heart breaking Its better that it ended in the way that it did. Something similar happened to me.

Hope all works well.

He cares about you i think, But dont hold out.