I have a saying in life and that is you can't change a white dog into a black dog, and that is what a lot of people do, they meet someone and then they try to change them. So in your case you are trying to change yourself, and that is not the thing to do. If you are intelligent and sensitive then that is you, and believe me there are a million women out there who will love that, much more than some jack the lad who struts about thinking he is god's gift, in fact that is a real turn off (for me anyway!) So be yourself and find the person who is your true soulmate, she will probably be artistic intelligent and sensitive herself and she will love you for the way you are. Too nice??!! Impossible. Whoever is saying that to you is not for you. Maybe you need to move into some different circles, perhaps an art evening class or reading group. Good luck.