Shy in bed

[starry eyes]

Iv recently got a new boyfriend (Yay to me!!) but anyways, i am quite shy in bed, as i hate my body ect. i know with time i will feel more comfortable, but in the mean time, how do i work around this, i really like my guy, but when he asked me what i like (sexually) i couldn't answer!! Help!

[holly999]

you have to remember all girls hate something about themselves an im no exception i had the same trouble when i met my boyfriend but at the end of the day this guy is your boyfriend because he likes you which includes the way you look!!! he obvioulsly loves the way you look as firstly he is your boyfriend and secondly he is asking what you like sexually!. Maybe just explain to him that you are a little shy as your not very confident with your body and that you wana take it slowly in the bedroom department once you are with him all your worries will dissapear and you wonder why you ever worried about this.and i bet he makes you feel brilliant!!

[mangosam]

well congratulations getting with a guy. Just try and work around the problem by looking at yourself in the mirror and saying i'm gonna accept what i am. oh an yeah just give him a kinky answer so he is still hooked hope this helped

byebye

[vehelpfulguy]

I remember a scene in the comedy Coupling where Jeff was discussing the problems between men and women.

He said that women spent all their time worrying about this and that, whereas men were just happy if you were naked.

Any man in bed with with will not be looking at you and saying I dont like this or i dont like that.

Men LOVE womens naked bodies (why do you think we spend so much time looking at nudes on the internet).

Be proud of your body and he will love you for it.

[flora696]

whatever you do don't tell him you're not confident with your body. You should be proud of what you have and if it's that bad do something about it! He wouldn't be with you if he didn't like you it's not hard to imagine someone naked I am sure he is not going to be shocked!

[StudentGal]

I think for the most part, men don't think to deeply abbout your body when you'r ein bed with them for the first time. It's more a case of "My god there's a girl in my bed, she's naked and I'm goign to get laid"

Don't worry about it! :D

[oceanauk]

starry eyes - actually I think it is important how you feel and that you can discuss it with your new man. Why should you have to keep these feelings to yourself? I agree with everybody else that men do seem to be happy just to have somebody next to them in bed but at the same time if your shy you will not relax and eventually back off and give him the wrong impression if you don't discuss. You do not have to go into any detail with him if your not comfortable yet but just say your shy and you want to go a bit slower. I know because I am in exactly the same position. I'm 36 and spent 6 years on my own raising my son - having a child ruined my figure and physically damaged some inimate parts of my body - I am in fact having counselling but it doesn't make it any easier. I still have not let my partner see me in daylight and we've been together 3 months now. I guess these things take time and in you love each other you'll work it out. Good luck. Go with your heart.

[carmelbaby]

Just b real wit him.. He jst mite except that.. I know evry guy i been with they are the same way as urs is..