URGENT boyf help

[starry eyes]

I sent my boyf a txt msg yesterday, breaking up with him. (i didnt know when i was gonna see him next to do it as im going holiday on sat) anyways, he didnt reply and i thought that was the end of it. Anyways, he has just come to see me at work, he has lost his mobile phone at the weekend and wanted my number again. He never recieved my txt dumping him. I didnt have the heart to tell him as it was the wrong time and place. What do i do???? Im worried hel find his phone and read the msg. I still need to break up with him, even those he's a lovely guy, its just not working for me. Please help me

[gemcoops]

Tell him the truth asap. How would you feel if you were dumped by a text message, I know i'd be angry? It's not easy but you cant stay with him if you don't love/like him anymore, it's not fair on him or yourself.

[4getmenot]

first of all grow up, messaging someone to dump them! and you're actually old enough to work? Come on, just talk and tell him you dont want to go out with him anymore, better to hurt him honestly now than hurt him in the future

[IzzieQ]

Agree with gemcoops and 4getmenot. Be an adult and tell him face to face. Much more hurtful to be dumped by text. Have been dumped by email myself - ouch...

[starry eyes]

The only reason i ended it by text was cos i hadn't heard from him since Saturday and i didnt think i was gonna get a chance to meet up before i go away. I wanted to do it to his face tho. Maybe i should phone his landline and tell him then.... or arrange to meet? i dunno!

[4getmenot]

Even if you couldn�t see him, then a phone call and a bit of an explanation would have helped and you wouldn�t be in this mess. Can I ask why don�t you want to be with him?

[IzzieQ]

Any chance you could wait until you get back?

[starry eyes]

he is a lovely guy and i really like him, but, he is so different to me, things just arnt working out for me. He's quite irrisponsable, and none of my mates like or trust him and i get the feeling that maybe they are right. also, iv been thinking about my ex, who iv realised that i still like, so its not fair to stay with him. I wanna do it before i go away so i can relax on holiday without worrying about it.

[4getmenot]

Yes if you have feelings for someone else then best to tell him, and I�d tell him exactly that aswell, be honest with him. Good Luck xx

[ivor-bigon]

is he just saying he has lost his phone so he could come and see you and test you out face to face,if so you have shown him that you where not sure.tell him straight away don`t wait or it will ruin your holiday

[jno]

everybody is right. Tell him face to face, and as soon as possible. He's got a right to his freedom if you don't want him.

[wiggal]

Sorry, but i have to say, if you are in a relationship, dumping someone by text, whatever the reason is one of the lowest things you can do!

[laurence2]

i've no time for cowards like you who can't confront someone, your lower than low. gutted to precise

Not nice is it ?

[wiggal]

i would of said the lowest of the low, but i think that is having another relationship behind your partners back!
So i refrained :)

[laurence2]

Wiggal.

Ok maybe its not the lowest of the low lol, how would pavement level sound?

[Trinny]

I think breaking up with him via text is horrible. I doubt he lost his mobile, but wanted to confront you face to face. You dont seem to care about his feelings much, and are more concerned about your holiday.

You should see him face to face and tell him.

[starry eyes]

Its not as simple as it sounds.
Can you check out this link from a thread i wrote a while back.
Its the same guy im with now, i thought id give him a chance.

Right! I cant put the link on! But its under my threads and is titled
'am i being used'

Please read it. Thanks

[starry eyes]

http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/R elationships-and-Dating/Question370967.html

Think this is it??

[melons]

Personally, you should never finish with someone via a text message. It isnt a kind way of doing it. I woudl tell him the truth as soon as you can, arrange to meet before you go away, dont leave it to chance that you might or might not see him. He deserves that.
be honest and tell him how you feel and say that you want your space.
Hope you have a lovely holiday and that it goes ok.
Be thinking of you. xx

[4getmenot]

you have said he is lovely in both posts. No matter what he deserves to be told face to face. Even if he's been a git to you it would make you the better person.

[JulieB123]

It is really terrible to text and dump someone, think how you would have felt, but you also should not be influenced by your mates.

I think you just wanted your freedom for your holiday, come on starry eyes admit you just want a bit of sun, sea & the other and if your young and free who can blame you at least you weren't going to be two timing him so i think your intentions were in the right place.