complicated

[brandypuss]

well i will start from the start! i was with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and thought that was it i was happy and we would be together forever and eventually marry then one day out of the blue he told me that he didnt love me anymore and that was it i never saw or heard from him again as you can imagine i was devastated! and it took alot of getting over that then i met a really nice guy and started seeing him for about 5 months and thought we where getting on very well and he was everything i looked for in a guy, but i dont think he was ready to commit so he suggested we just be friends . now feeling more crap! plus loads of pther parents and friends. i just feel i cant trust anybody because every time i get close to anyone i just get burnt! is there any guy out there that isnt a ****! im a really nice grounded person and attractive i cant see why i cant seem to keep a nice guy

[ummmm]

How old are you?

It's hard to say. How you view yourself is not alway the same as how others view you. You say you are a 'really nice grounded person and attractive' but have you taken a step back and looked at your faults. Are you clingy or jealous. Can you be moody or selfish?

I'm just asking btw.....

[grumpii]

just chill out a bit, its not always about marriage and commitment. If you are nicely grounded and attractive you will find somebody nice as long as you dont hound them into marriage and commitment etc. Go with the flow in your relationships without seeming too over eager to tie him down. (chill out x )

[caz247]

why do you feel the need to be in a relationship. what do you mean by not trusting anybody.
are you insecure at all

[jno]

to quote Goldfinger (I think), Once is happenstance, twice is coincidence, three times is enemy action. To lose a couple of bfs is a shame but could well be no more than a coincidence. If it did happen a third time, though, you might want to ask ... not 'what is wrong with me that I can't keep a man' so much as 'why do I fall for guys who won't commit'... This is not necessarily any criticism of you, but are you missing some signals that tell you a guy isn't up for domesticity? Can you look back on these two and see any signs now that you might have missed then? There are plenty of decent males out there, as willing as you to commit to a long-term relationship, but you may need to hone your skills at identifying them.