should i finish it?

[wleshbeetle]

Ive been with this boy now about 4 months, about 7 months ago he came out of a long term relationship, we have been together every day recently and ive really fallen for him, well hes just dropped a bomb shell now that his ex wants him back and he doesn't now what to do cos he still loves her, but he also says he doesn't want to finish it with me, he says its upto me if I want to carry on with the relationship, I don't know what to do I cant imagin not being without him now, you know speaking on the phone with each other everynight, so I really don't wanna end it expecially if he doesn't end up getting back with his ex on the other hand thou I don't want a few months down the line to have all this again and get evan more hurt, wat do you think I should do? x

[jno]

sounds like he's too feeble to make up his own mind and wants you to do it for him. If you stay with him, prepare for a high-maintenance husband forever. Me, I'd tell him to go sort it out himself, and get on with his life. If he comes back, you can take him back if you want, but you may well have found someone a bit more sure of himself in the meantime.

[wleshbeetle]

thanks for that, all answers really appreciated

[4getmenot]

leave him, its not fair on you to be involved in all this, he needs time on his own to decide what he wants to do. If he gets back with ex he couldnt have felt that much about you, if he wants you back hey presto :-)

[Casey]

As the saying (or song) goes - if you love something, let it go. If it comes back it' yours.. that's how you know.

[lilyfrog]

tell the selfish git to sling his hook. How dare he treat you like that, he should consider him self lucky to have a caring girl, not tell you that he is not sure whether he wants to be with someone else!

weak, feeble and useless by the sound of it

[wleshbeetle]

thanks for all your answers, any other opinions are still really appreciated!

good saying casey *
lilyfrog wish i had the guts like you! well done
4getmenot thanks for that good advice

[wleshbeetle]

thanks for all your answers, any other opinions are still really appreciated!

good saying casey *
lilyfrog* wish i had the guts like you! well done
4getmenot* thanks for that good advice

[4getmenot]

just look after No.1. xx

[minibusman]

listen to 4getmenot she only gives good advice.......good luck girl....x

[Jennifer_667]

Well girl it seems as if he wants to finish with you and just don't wnat to be the one to do it, so his asking you to do what you want. In most cases like this one, he will get back with her. Just the simple fact that it was a long term relationship like you said. I know what you mean by been scared, just don't be scared to be alone and without a man. You will find someone who will love you for you.. I fyou dont mind me asking why did they brake up in the first place? Did he do something to her and now she wants him back.... Think about it...

[joynesey]

i think if he still has feelings for his ex, it means hes not 100% in the relationship with you, so its not worth it. Maybe you need to take a break and he needs to realise who he really wants.