Don't get hung up on the age thing, I bet you she may not be as nice, as considerate, etc etc as you. These things are never cut and dried like that. He is possibly delusional, idiotic and suffering from 'grass is greener' syndrome. Perhaps he was going to wait until your daughter gets married before he dropped the bombshell, how do think you will cope with that have you thought about that yet? Do your girls know? Do you have someone you talk to who doesn't know you both? He is not going to be happy for very long if he has to lie about family etc ... Shame on him! I completely understand about the making time thing for someone being hurtful, I think that would really irke me most of all. Go to the Post office and pick up a change of address form for him, unless you want to monitor his business activites. Good luck with the Solicitor, come on sweetheart get your thinking cap on you need to be able to detach your self on some level and treat these things as good business decisions or you may regret that you reacted to his choices instead of making them on your terms.
There are lots of people who can understand and support you on here, if you need it. But please don't drink and type it never looks pretty the next day < smiles at Maggie> onwards and upwards Sweetie - choices to make - Solicitor to see - Dartboard to buy!! keep your chin up. Love Sense.X
Click on this link and check out some of the issues other people are wrangling with, some will make you cry some you want to reach in and bang heads together and some will make you feel sooo much better about yourself and events.
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Don't forget to clear the history section if you are using a joint computer so he can't check what you have been looking at.