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[see me]

I didnt think that i would get to attached to my boyfriend after we had sex. I didnt want to, but i have and it scares me. Now when he talks to other girls i get really mad and i hate that. All the time im thinking "what if he breaks up with me" he tells me that he wont but now that we have shared that "special bond" our relationship has changed. is this normal?

[ummmm]

That depends on how old you are I suppose.

It is normal to a certain extent. Especially if you see sex as something special between two people who love each other. Hopefully these feelings will gradually go as your relationship developes.

Do be careful though....try not to be clingy because it really is a turn off.

Just try and enjoy your relationship.

[see me]

Im 16 years old and i love him...SO much. we've been best friends for 4 years and have been dating or almost 8 months.
im not to clingy.. i just am very protective and i dont want to lose him. The weird thing is that i talk to him about this and he kinda feels the same way.
Is this still normal?

[ummmm]

I would say so yes.

As you get older it gets easier so I wouldn't worry about it too much.

[see me]

thank you "ummm" i think you have just proved that me and my man are normal.... hahaha thank you!

[joko]

it is not normal for you to get really mad just because he talks to another girl.

i think you are clingy, and you are going to lose him if you carry on this way.
he may say he doesn't mind it now, but sooner or later he will get sick of being controlled and essentially not trusted

[888sally888]

Try and be more relaxed and trust him - sounds like he has given you no reason to doubt him at all so chill out and have fun x

[spammylou]

If you was happy in your relationship and he treated you well, I would not see it as a problem, as I don't mind my partner going, and I have even been to one myself, and they are actually ok! i.e the proper ones.

Men could be in the local boozer spending and buying drinks for women and shafting them afterwards; sorry to be crude but this doesn't go on in the lap dancing clubs apart from them paying for dances but it is unlikely they get to shag the dancer, there aren't many women there other than the dancers and usually they are with their dh's.

Aside from this your partner sounds extremely selfish leaving you while he goes off to these places regularly and going on holiday, to look after his children while he disappears and not get in until 3 am. What about you? My husband did all this and I am glad to say he is now my EX.

Good luck!!

[spammylou]

sorry!! Replied to wrong thread!!!

[see me]

Joko... your a jurk...even my BOYFRIEND said that was crap!

[joko]

and you are an ignorant child, who knows nothing about life, about boys, about relationships, or about spelling for that matter - of course your boyfriend disagreed, you fool - he's not likely to admit it is he!
do you seriously think he likes you throwing a strop every time he speaks to another girl?
that is not normal behaviour!

did you just want people to say ''aahh poor you, you carry behaving like a spoilt brat''??
if so, you should have just said.

you did however ask for advice - so i gave it to you - that you didn't like it is just tough sh1t.

your immaturity is just demonstrated in the fact that you wrote out this childish dribble - and showed it to him!!
are you mad??? no, just stupid.

would you care to explain exactly what i have said in that post that offended you?

what i said is correct - come back in 6 months a tell me that you still ''love him so much'', and that he just loves your tantrums.

oh, and ''protective'' is just another word for clingy.

[see me]

JOKO... i know we will stil be together in 6 months because we have been best friends for 4 years. If he could handle my "clingy-ness" this long why the hell cant he handle it another 6 months. By the way he does the same thing to me. So i guess we are both "clingy" and "stupid."