how can i get wife back

[tonythebiker]

any ideas of how i can get my wife back she left me because one of her mates said i asked her out but i never also she is now saying that i'm to controlling but i don't think i am all it was another 1 of her mates husband owes us money only �95 and i said i don't want anything to do with him and if she goes and see her mate with him there i won't be very happy he has owed us it for about 6 months now. that is where she is staying now she also saying i have an anger management problem ok i put my hands up to that never hit her all i do is shout and i put my fist throw a glass cabinet 3 days ago when she told me she is not coming home. i went today to start anger management class she knows that and i think its good. i have begged, grovelled, i told her i will book a flight tomorrow to Egypt for the 2 of us as she has always wanting to go also i offered to take her to new Zealand for a month but again no what else can i do. we have been together 6 years and i love her to bits please if you can help and it works i will give you a good drink out of it so please get thinking

[jno]

it's possible she's just left you because she felt like it - her excuse seems pretty flimsy to me. In that case it's unlikely that you'll get her back. This is tough, but have you sat down and asked yourself exactly why you want her back? She's not treating you with much respect, and you should be able to do better without too much trouble. Try weighing up the good things about her and the bad things (and personally I'd say walking out on a duff pretext like this was very bad indeed) and asking yourself if her presence is really worth the pain you're feeling now.

Sorry not to offer much hope; but it truly sounds as if you're better off without her.

Stick with the anger management, though; it may not win her back but it'll make your life better, and right now I think you could do with a bit of self-improvement.

[daw35y]

It sounds to me your controlling, you cant tell another person what to do, also you wont buy her back ,especially if you have been aggresive in the past. I suggest you carry on with your anger management course but do it for yourself and not for her. If you do love her you will let her breath, if you give her space to breath she might realise that she misses you after all 6 years is along time. You should also ask her how long shes been feeling like this. also never beg and grovel women like to see their men strong with repsect , but its ok to cry in front of her. GOOD LUCK

[behappy87]

I don't think saying you'll take her to egypt or new zealand is a good idea first off, if she's thinking of leaving you, why would she want to go on holiday with you? That makes it seem like you're trying to buy her back, which is not what she would want. I think your best bet is to carry on with the anger management (for yourself if nothing else). Have you calmly told her why you didn't want her seeing her friend's husband? I suppose it all depends at the end of the day though, on how she feels, and whether she wants to stay with you. Good luck.