am i wrong????

[ANGELEYES07]

am i wrong for wanted my fiance to include me in some of his activities ...it seems like hes always keeping me seperate. like i just moved to pa from ny only people i know is my sis and my mom....we only have one car that is leased.....i have the license...he doesnt anyways he work's 8-4 i work 3-11 but today im off and he calls me around 11am from work tellin me.... not askin me to get an outfit ironed and together because hes going out untill later on then hes picking me up to hang out..but it kills me that he tells me this **** instead of asking me to iron for him or even asking me if i wanna go...weve been 2gether since april18 06...and we have a 1month old baby...but getting a baby sitters no issue mom lives 2 minutes away...i dont know how to feel or react anymore it just seems as if im kept seperate and oh if my 1 girlfriends wants to hang out he gets weird like asking me where im going 50million x's and its like i neva get aday to my self he always knows where i am but he gets to leave for hours without tellin me nuttin i hate this issue!!!!my feeling are telling me to leave constantly because i am not happy at all plus i make way more money than him its just all wrong....

[laurence2]

He sounds quite controlling & possessive.

Its ok for him to enjoy himself with his mates? but you have to play the dutiful gf and stay at home looking after the little one.

If your not happy in a relationship, you really need to sit down with each other and talk things through, if he dosen't want to do this, you may well have to give him an ultimatum.
Far to many people get into relationships then realise that that person did not live up to the expectations you wanted them to, he has an equal responsibility to raise your child like you, your entitled to have a social life even if it means going out just with the girls.
If he goes out, tell him your mum will look after the baby and your go out with your friends, lets see how he reacts to that.
Only you know if you've made the right decision to stay with him, Do not let him keep your relationship together just because you have a baby, you will not be the first or last person to bring a baby up on your own.

Sit down and talk {can't beat it}, and don't be afraid to tell him your ''true feelings''

All the best

[jno]

Nothing to add to laurence, really. Yes, he should help with your baby; yes, he should behave better generally. As well as making your own feelings known, try to find out why he's changed; perhaps with a baby around he feels neglected?

[poopy]

he sounds like he hasnt grasped the family life yet. and to be honest darlin - probably never will. my fella was exactly the same and i let it go on for nearly 2 years. i let him have a life whilst i took care of our new baby in every way. my baby is nearly 2 now and needless to say i woke up 1 day and realised this wasnt for me. he wouldnt change no matter how much i whinged or talked to him about it. so i left! ive had 2 years without my partner my so called 'soul mate' & my son has gone 2 years without a dad so nothing really has changed in my life apart from i live somewhere else now. think of your happiness & sanity! Good luck for the future anyway.

[ANGELEYES07]

thanks guys