broken up

[nannon]

with my boyfriend yesterday...dont know what to do.

[nuoyg]

Hi nannon, do you think there is any chance of you getting back together?

Meanwhile, got a good friend who can be with you?

[cruella]

Hi nannon
You must be feeling pretty low at the moment. It may just be a little tiff!
Wish we could help you but you have not said if it is serious or not!

[skyep]

Hi nannon - How old are you? How long were you together? It hurts a lot, how are you feeling?

[nannon]

yes its serious. i totally lost it and ended up slapping him across the face... i cant beleive i've done it. He slapped my arm but i wish he laid in to me cuz i prob wouldnt feel so bad right now. I'm not even a violent person. He was meant to go back to London tonight but he walked out yesterday and went home. I cant believe what ive done. He turned his phone off last night - he woulnt answer when i called earlier. i called him from a different phone and he didnt want to talk. Ive totally blown it. Cant blame him really - if it wa sthe other way round i'd have been out the door to

[nuoyg]

If you've not been like it before then when he's cooled down, he may come round.

Meanwhile, was there a reason for you losing it?...i.e. if he'd just said ''i've been seeing someone else'' then you probabaly would have reacted like any other person kinda thing.

[nannon]

no - i wish i could say it was something major but it was just a silly little bicker that blew out of control. We have been bickering a lot recently - i cant seem to control my emotions at all recently and i just go mental or start crying for no reason. He said he is fed up of walking on egg shells around me, cuz he is scared of my reaction. I have tried to explain to him how ive been feeling but obviously not well enough., He is such an sngel- really lovely guy and he deserves better. I said, after it happend, if we love each other enough we can over come this and he said "well obviously i dont love you enough"

[cruella]

Hi nannon
If there is not a third party involved with either of you, then I am sure you can patch things up.
He is bound to know what you did was totally out of character and he will get time to reflect. Why not text him and apologise asking if you two could talk?

[nannon]

i have, i went after him to the station after he left. tried everything to try and talk but he just not interested. I have text him and called him about 30 times and nothing. I have just written him a long letter trying to explain myself, not making any excuses cuz there are no excuses but just trying to make him understand how i've been feeling for the last couple of months. Think i will send it to him. Thinking of having some roses delivered to him...can you send a guy flowers though??

[nuoyg]

oh no nannon, that can't have been nice. If you're not feeling your usual self recently is there a reason for it which you could explore? Not under any stress? Changed pill?

Have you been together a long time? If so if it's only recently you say you've not been able to control your emotions, I'm sure when he calms down then he won't want to throw it away.

If he won't take your call then the only thing I guess you could do is to send a text to apologise and say you're looking into why you've been feeling like this, but you think you have too good a thing to throw away etc.

[skyep]

Sometimes when we feel we are losing a grip on a relationship that you don't want to end & you know there's no way back, we can act very desperately. Sadly, there's nothing you can do to make the other person feel the same way back, it may be that your relationship has run it's course. It's very traumatic, it's not going to be nice, you will have to ride it out. I've been there, look after yourself!

[cruella]

nannon,
Part of the problem could be that you both live a distance away. Or at least, I assume you do.
Take a step back and think why you have been so tense recently. Sometimes work can do this to us. I know my job makes me like that sometimes. You have to know yourself what is making you like this, or is it your boyfriend who is touchy at the moment.
Whatever the reason, it can be overcome but not until you get to the root of why things are like they are.

[cruella]

Yes, you can send roses nannon. Send him a letter too. If that does not work after he has had time to reflect, then it is tough I know you just have to move on.
The other side of the coin is to find out what is making you like this just now. Tell him all this and seek help.

[nannon]

i think its a mixture of living apart and how i've been feeling. It seems i have to control on my emotions and no grip on anything. I have told him i will go to doctors and have a chat with them see if it may be to do with my pill or something.
Think your right - i'll send him the letter and some roses and leav him for a bit, I just dont want him to think that i dont care if i;m not texting him and calling him

[cruella]

Go for it girl You have nothing to lose.
Good Luck!! At least it is better than doing nothing at all.

[country_boy]

Send the letter, he'll read it. Hope it's not too late for you guys. You gotta try though else you'll regret not knowing if it would have made a difference.
May be worth looking into changing your pill, from my experience (even tho I'm a bloke and will prob get slagged off for this) I've seen some major emotional/rationale changes and been on eggshells in a couple of my relationships and pill change has helped.
Good luck

[leelapops]

Hi nannon, I am really sorry to hear about your break-up. You must be hurting lots. Just to echo what others have said, give him space, he'll appreciate it, let him know you are keen to resolve your issues, and if it isn't going to work out, be strong and learn from the relationship.

Lots of wishes for you

[nannon]

thank you very much for all you answers - will send the letter tomorrow, (although with all postal strikes will prob take about a week to get there!)
Am going to make appointment with the doctors as well to have a chat about maybe coming off my pill or at least trying a new one maybe.
thanks again

[raysparx1]

Hi nannon, please send the letter, it will mean so much more than a text or an emotional phone call, you have both been under a lot of stress recently, with the impending move etc, so don't be to hard on yourself, we all go through these stages in life, give him a little space to think, and after a little while ask him to meet for a chat, and hopefully all will be ok, if he does not want to meet for a while, don't put any pressure on him, good luck, hope all works out well for you both, take care, Ray xx