what can I do?

[Twinkle17]

I had a relationship 3 years ago with a man which I ended because I found out he was already in a relationship....anyway to make matters worse I work with him, he keeps e-mailing me constantly saying hi "babe" how you doing" "I hear you single now" and all that rubbish, I started to ignore his mails because I have no feelings for him, he is still in his relationship and he is basically a slime ball. I got an e-mail from him last night saying " I know you still find this hard but you will always be special to me" as if to say that I still like him, which he truly believes I do!!!!!!! The mails are constant and he always calls me babe and sexy and apologies that we didnt work out. I honestly couldnt care less but he is starting to wind me up, what do I do? so far I have just ignored him but it doesnt seem to be working, he thinks I am ignoring him to block out my feelings, I want to tell him exactly how I feel but im not the type of person to say that to somebody. what would you suggest? If I ignore him he thinks im trying to hide my feelings, if I answer him he will think im still interested. x

[Twinkle17]

sorry if ive rambled alot or made no sense, that will be the bottle of wine! Always blame the alcohol!

[Miss Chief]

If he's emailing you at work tell him he needs to stop and that if he doesn't you'll have no choice but to report him to your HR department for harassment, That should get the message across.

[Twinkle17]

No he contacts me though facebook, I dont want to close my facebook account down just because of him and I cant block him cause everyone at work will ask why (we all have access to eachother and they will see he has been removed from my list) Bloody men!!!

[Petal~flower]

just tell him to fook off

[cazzz1975]

tell him to spend his time lavishing attention on his wife/gf

also mention that you are now dating someone else and you are no longer interested, if you dont make it black and white he will continue to pester you.

[chitchat]

Twinkle - he is harrassing you - please report him. By doing nothing is just giving him the green light to continue. If he is so thick skinned that he cant take a hint then let your HR/Manager know and let them deal with it. As for letting your collegues know about him - go ahead and block him - he doesnt deserve your loyalty.

In a pickle - nice to see you back.

[888sally888]

Be honest with him and say that you really arent interested in him, are happily dating a couple of other hunks and that he should leave you alone. Be firm and try walking around with a twinkle in your eye and a smile and he will wonder what you have been up to!

Seriousl though if it gets worse you do need to report him to HR or your boss.