Long distance relationship....

[feelap]

Hi guys,

For the past year and 3/4 I've been with someone in a LDR. She lives in London and me in Hong Kong. I have been away and have only seen her maybe 8 weeks collectivley in those 2 years. I was supposed to come back in December but have told her I wont be until April.

She is very very upset, angry and frustrated with me. She tells me she no longer loves me and that reeally hurt. I thought we silenced all our critics when they said it would never work but i guess we were wrong. I admit its been all my fault and I have delayed my return so many times now (3 times in fact)

Im so afraid of losing her and will not give up without a fight. She goes to Uni and there r 2 guys on her course who have been paying attention. She tells me they r both there for her, something i can give right now.

Im so scared and feel so helpless and I need some advice. All i want is for her to forgive me and be patient for 5 more months.

Its out of my hands now

feelap X

[Reverandfunk]

I take it your fairly young. Personally put yourself in her shoes.

Why have you delayed seeing her 3 times?

2 me seeing someone on average of a month a year isn't a relationship, at your age you should be having fun and enjoying life not pining for someone thousands of miles away, lifes too short. If you do both want to make it work one of you will have to make a massive sacrifice and i wouldnt at your age.

[Ice-Maiden]

I think the distance between you is going to make things difficult, yet I know of two that've survived. Why were you unable to visit your gf as planned? I can undertand her disappointment, yet if the problem's financial, isn't there some way that either of you could scrape the money together? You don't say if you're also a student or not. Would you be able to work or study in the UK? If you have strong feelings for your gf, I wonder why you've delayed your return so many times? Maybe your gf's just trying to get you over here before April, but personally, I think you might both be better off by moving on.

[feelap]

Hi Rev,

You're good. Im 23, shes 20.

I am currently in HK working and I've delayed 3 times because I have a good thing going on over here (rent free flat, a professional job that pays well) I just didnt wanna quit it yet.

Im sick to death of life here and am due to retunr in April (already booked ticket so no turning back)

I completely agree with her and to be honest, if i were her, I wouldnt wait so long. The last time I saw her was April 07, so it will be exactly 1 year when I see her again.

[Ice-Maiden]

I think you've answered yourself feelap.

[JK2]

How anyone can consider 8 weeks out of 2 years to be a relationship is beyond me!!

It is hardly worth discussing this situation as it doesn't really exist.

[dwaty]

I think you should fight for her if you think she's worth it if you really lover her, a relationship shouldn't just be about physical contact, as long as you keep in contact by email, phone or even instant messaging. if she really loves you back then she'll wait for you, you say you have been together for 3 years well dont you think a few more months is nothing.
Go for it tell her how you feel and follow your heart.

good luck x

PS I'm 24.

[dwaty]

sorry i miss read the question nearly 2 years.

[pmorley]

It you are in a good job, how about flying her over for Christmas or in the New Year?