Was I right?

[Shirl]

Have been on a site for a while, its a friends/dating one. Had this chap messaging me. He is married, so I told him, I would rather not chat to a married man. I thought it unfair to his wife, even though the messages totally innocent.

He says I should be able to talk to anyone I want. If not I will live my life within 4 walls and never meet anyone. He said it was "useful advice"!

I didn't reply to that message. But was he right?

[Ice.Maiden]

You don't need to go looking, Shirl. If you're meant to meet someone, you will - so all the best. x

[Shirl]

thanks Ice Maiden x

[blu3wave]

As long as he is not as old or doesn't look as old as dr spock, I think you should try and be good friends with him, ... get to know hm (if he'll let you) before you decide.

[4getmenot]

yes he's right he can speak to who he likes, but so can you and you didnt want to speak to him. Question is its not a chat room, he's on a dating site!!

[andy-hughes]

Have to agree with the previous answers.

His 'friendly advice' - is there another kind? - is a response to your attitude concerning his marital status, which is entirely your choice and your right.

Perhaps he feels a little guilt, and as such he feels peeved that you have decided to opt out of an on-line reletaionship with him, so he felt the need to have a pop at your insecurity.

Ignore him. This man does not know you, and is obviously not qualified to make such suggesttions - 'friendly' or otherwise.

You can pick and choose how you live your life on a dating site, he, by defintion, cannot.

[cazzz1975]

one thing you can guess for sure is that he will keep trying it on people until someone says yes...

[maggie01]

Well done you . Seeing as I am going through a divorce due to an innocent come in for a chat. I admire you for knowing where it could lead to.