How to I get my boyfriend out the pub?

[Laura Loo]

He goes there every night after workand on thursdays and sundays comes home a 2am insanely drunk. Snores all night and kicks me out of bed.

I can't leave the house cos i've got 2 wee ones in bed?

Do I attempt to get him out the pub (cos he's always in there after work and we can't afford it) or do I just give him the elbow?

views please!x

[311271]

he doesn't deserve you Laura Loo

[hau kola]

Elbow 100%

[Ice.Maiden]

If he's not a social alcoholic, then he's either stressed or there's something not right in your relationship. There's nothing wrong with the odd drink after a hard day's work, but if you can't afford it, your bf's either being silly with money or he has wider issues. Do you sit down and talk things over? Before you just leave him, point out that there are two children which should come first. Tell him that you're not happy with the way things're going - and if he doesn't change - THEN give him the elbow.

[jojojojoanne]

elbow i'd say.

[Laura Loo]

We and try and talk things over, he blames it on his anxiety issues for which he now has medication.

How many chances to change are reasonable do you think? I don't want to be a mug

[jojojojoanne]

reason? it's up to you.

[lmao]

You gotta stutter joanne

[Ice.Maiden]

Well I think you know him best. Has he always been like this? If he's on anti-anxiety medication, surely he shouldn't be drinking at all? I believe in giving a person a chance, but you have to really say what you mean, and stick by it. Set aside a time that you can both pour your feelings out - without interruption. Being as though you have a family, I think everyone should be given a chance to express themselves, but your bf must also realise that he can't carry on like a man with no responsibilities. Tell him that he's got a month to change his ways. If not - it's over. You deserve more than this.

[Laura Loo]

Thanks :-)

[ELVIS68]

Why Thursdays and Sundays at 2am?, what time the rest of the week?

[Laura Loo]

His mate owns a pub round the corner and they have music and stuff on thurs and suns. the rest of the week its between 10 and 1 (bearing in mind he finishes work at 7 and lives 10 minute walk from work)

[ELVIS68]

Sounds to me like he`s an alchy, do as Ice Maiden says and give him a month to change his ways, a couple of pints after work is ok, and a night out at the weekend, but every night is just taking the p!ss

[stevie1time]

I was the same as your fella,i thought the world revolved around me,i wasnt a dad to my kids and i went to the pub most nights,used the old excuse that i work hard and i deserved my time...I look back on those days and realise something,,i took my partner for granted,i took my kids for granted,treated them as though i had some god given right over them,as though the life i led was the way it was meant to be.....Fair play to my ex,she had the strength and self belief that herself and our children deserved better,that if she stayed around,then it wouldnt change...I honestly didnt know what i had until it was gone....Dont get me wrong,i learnt my lesson...I think you should go,do what you can,because as long as he thinks you will allways be there,he wont change...i am sorry to be so blunt and negative...it takes a boot up the arse to move forward...x

[Reverandfunk]

Call him a taxi

No real man would rather be on the lash than spending time with his kids

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[Myriad2112]

I can't see what he's done wrong
Isn't that normal?

[Yorks lad]

hey it sounds to me like he sees you as a person to cook and clean for him whilst he has a single blokes lifestyle.

sounds like you should give him the boot to me

[Whoever]

Possibly time to take a very hard look at him and ask yourself if this is what you want for yourself and your children for the rest of your life - living with a drunk who spends all his money on booze. Please do think hard about this. You are obviously still quite young and have the rest of your life in front of you. Don't you think you and your children deserve somebody better who will respect you and want to spend time (and money) with you. Do you have anything in common any more? If a serious discussion won't persuade him to change his ways and accept more family responsibility, move on, however hard it is. It will be even harder sometime in the future looking back and seeing how much of your life you have wasted on a drunkard. Believe me, people with this habit find it very hard to change their ways.

[tanushka]

ELBOW! He won't change - don't be a mug.