Getting back into dating

[Petal~flower]

You who know me on here, know I my relationship broke up last year (yawn) and thanks to all who listened (bez, sleepy) especially.

But the way the relationship ended, has dented my self esteem. He moved away for a big salary. And brand new car. After being together for nearly 4 years. (says a lot about me huh!) lol

But I am now well over him. But am finding it hard to move on and wanting to meet anyone else. I cant be bothered to try even.

Online dating doesnt really appeal to me.

I sort of want to be with someone, but to be honest, am scared of getting hurt all over again.

p.s. had a couple of glasses of wine, if not I would not of posted this lol

[legend759]

online dating strikes me as a bit freaky.some nutters out there btw.lol

[Petal~flower]

hiya Legend ... yeah thats my feeling too

[legend759]

think ur better alone than with some trainspotter in a wooly hat lol

[Drisgirl]

Petal -dont listen to the cynics.

I KNOW people who have got to KNOW fellas on-line dating and they are now either living with them or married.

It works -its no different from meeting some guy in the pub.

I would defo do it and I hate stigma atached to it cos the majority of people are moving on from a failed realtionship and are now finding it hard to get into the local social scene -I would far rather get to know someone on here.

Go for it it hun -I have set 2 of my mates up in the past and they had a blast -only thing was they had to come to mine to check messahes and it became a bit tedious for me.

[Petal~flower]

you ever thought about being an agony uncle legend lol

[legend759]

Well if youd like to lioe down on my couch and tell me all about it?

[Drisgirl]

Petal dont listen to him honestly -he is just a cynic.

Before all this PC lark some of my colleagues put an ad in the paper and they met some of the guys and 3 of them ended up married -and they were/are cracking guys.

Obv its moved on from there but what have you to lose -involve a pal so you can have a bit of fun looking and deciding.

[pastafreak]

know just how you feel,petal....have been alone for 2yrs now....sometime wish there was someone to make a cup of tea for...or vice versa. Sometimes really need a shoulder to rest my head on when weary....both physically and emotionally.But memories of hurt put me off...

[Petal~flower]

thanks Drisgirl. I do know of 2 friends of mine who have met partners through online dating. I think my problem is really in my head. Am 46 with 4 children living with me, and I think that most men would see me as someone "old" with baggage (think its the term men use for women with kids)

I would rather meet someone in a pub, so you know them instantly face to face, rather than chatting to someone on line, but as I don't have a social life really as when I am not working, I am looking after my kids. Online dating seems the only option I have of meeting anyone.

Maybe I should just stay single!

[legend759]

Dris dont you think a lot of attached guys use these dating sites to trawl for women looking for an easy shag then buugger off?

[legend759]

petal singles ok
well most of the time believe me

[Drisgirl]

O cmon you 2 -they arent coming to you -just dip your toe in the water so to speak -nothing ventured nothing gained.

Seen some of the guys on there -they are lovely.

Life is for a good time not a long time !!!!

[Petal~flower]

pasta, you sound like me hun. Thats what I would like. At the end of a long day. Someone there to share it with you xx

[legend759]

ehm nah sorry dris done it lol.


get a dog or a cat

more affection

less hassle

[legend759]

who 2 dris btw?

[Petal~flower]

legend, I think it works both ways. I think there are a lot of women on the sites too who also just look for sex.

Thanks Drisgirl. I think I am just really scared of getting involved with someone. And it all falling apart. I know its part of life etc. But been there done it, and really don't want to go back there. If you know what I mean

[pastafreak]

petal and i are probably terrified.....esp if badly hurt...

[legend759]

What sites are these women on just looking for sex?


as a matter of interest purely


lol

[pastafreak]

harder also if you have been hurt..rather than done the hurting...do i make sense??

[Petal~flower]

Pasta, think you nailed it there. Yes I am, and guessing you are too xx