we dont make love very often

[minnie1974]

Hi all. after talking too a guy off the internet for 3 years, we met in feb of this year and too keep it brief moved intogether straight away. i love him too bits, but im going out of my mind with worry, because we hardly ever make love unless i ask him, i want too talk too him about this, but dont know how too approach the subject?? he hardly ever touches me intimately other than a kiss or cuddle. he's older than me he's in his fifities im in my thirties, could this be the problem, we both want different things from the relationship?? please help

[minnie1974]

he just dosent show any interest trigger, i physically have too ask him if we can make love, otherwise he just rolls over and goes to sleep.

[sir.prize]

Hahahahahahaha

That has just got to be the funniest joke ever to be posted on AnswerBank . . . . .

slimeball claims to be a MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[gonzo00]

seriously...what did you expect from a guy in his fifties,he aint exactly gonna be a stallion,sometimes it's as simple as a guy just can't be @rsed. thats it plain and simple...no hidden agendas. at 50 odds the guy is well past his sexual prime...im in my late thirties and to be honest,after a bloody hard day and with all the financial responsibilities heaped upon me,the last thing i want to be bothered with is all of that carry on..it's just a sad fact of life that most of us guys have lot's to deal with and don't always feel like doing the devil's business.

[Postdog]

As a fifty plus year old - and I know I am leaving myself open here! - I have the same interest as I did when I was younger but it's not as easy as it once was, if you get my drift. Maybe that's the same with him too.

[jack daniels]

Sorry to be so intimate minnie but does he have a problem getting/keeping it at attention? maybe it's a bigger deal (pardon the pun) then you think it is for him.
Have you had an intimate relationship with him before moving in? or is this all new to you both?
After 3 years of a relationship via the internet, maybe he's happy enough to continue with the 'companion ship' style of relationship.

HTH

[minnie1974]

just spoke too him about it, says he's too tired when he's been at work all day, surely this is an excuse??? dont know where to go from him, as he was quite snappy with me when i approached the subject. any advice please??

[pastafreak]

It sounds like a rather bad excuse.....one would think that in a new reltionship-no matter the age-he would be more enthusiastic. My last relationship was with a man a few years older tham myself(I got my buspass last year-lol).....and particularly in the early months,lovemaking was VERY frequent.

[Velvetee]

Does he want to be in a relationship with you? It all seems rather quick, having met after 3 years of internet chat. Online romance is often very different to the reality and some people prefer the fantasy. Maybe it's different to how he thought it would be, but he keeps quiet because he's an inert type of person.

Perhaps you should ask him where he sees the relationship going and if he's satisfied with things. I would be very worried if my man never made any moves on me and even more so if he showed me no affection.

[beso]

Men peak in sexual desire in thie early twenties. Women in their mid thirties. You are not well matched sexually and it is very unlikely to work out.

[minnie1974]

hi all, he does show me affection in that we hold hands, cuddle kiss, but when it comes to the "bedroom" he dosent seem too want too know. he just says he's shattered after getting up early for work early. i'm really worried becos too me its a big part of any relationship, he reassures me i tunr him on, but im not convinced, im enough for him.

[velvet lady]

fantasy - always works. ask him wot he likes

for eg, i like my man to do the DIY naked and then i imagine him being caressed by keeley from page 3 and shes naked with her breasts touching his bits

it turns me on and him, so i talk dirty to him and tel him keeley is wet and ready for him, and to get naked and let me make love to him likes hes never had b4

there u go, give it a try

[bms]

That's not good, as it is clear that you are not gratified with the way he does/is; why don't you look someone that will meet your needs, cause this is one of the most improtant part of any relationship.
Get someone and enjoy life.