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Leapers | 22:11 Thu 17th Apr 2008 | Relationships & Dating
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This guy that i have liked for a year or so we were really good friends asked me out about a month ago but things seem to be a bit more of close friends with benefits rather than anything more serious. when we're together its amazing we have so much fun and we can talk openly but things dont seem to be moving on.
Dating for a month but he still asks me if he can hold my hand!!! its not like i've said no and i know hes really not a shy person. Is he just trying to be gental with me because he thinks im really fragile or becasue he likes me alot.

I really cant tell but i don't want to bring it up with him incase he thinks im being pushy and rushing into it.
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Perhaps he's having trouble making the tranistion from friends to dating. I'd just ask him if that's the problem as if it's freinds with benefits then I don't see why he'd be worrying about holding your hand.
I think he likes you so much that he's scared of doing the wrong thing and losing you ! It's difficult going from being great friends to something more serious because we see that person in a different light. Just go with the flow and stay great friends and the rest should come naturally.
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Thanks china doll and jillius
im trying to keep it simple so its not too rushed or anything becasue i was a bit nervous and funny about it to begin with it was a little weird i guess its just taking him longer
Usually does take a bit longerwith men! ;0) Kidding. Just give him a chance to find his feet and let his confidence grow.
I would like to let you know that first off I think that it is sweet that he asked to hold your hand it means that he is respecting you enough not to be all over you unless he knows you want him to be. I think he is taking it slow because he may of rushed things in the past and it ended up badly he wants things to work with you. from what you tell me I think you have a good man. If you feel things are moving to slow I think you should talk to him about what you want right now in your relationship. it is not rushing when you want to know where you both stand. Make an evening of it. It will bring you two closer.
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Thanks everyone now i think about it a bit more and with waht you have said i think it is really sweet i might just leave it for a while so he can get more comfortable, i like him alot and i know some of his previous relationships ended quite badly and he was hurt alot.
Thanks everyone im in a really good mood now!

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