She lies

[blondie83]

I live with 2 other girls. 1 of them tends to lie alot. An example is that she invited random man around to our flat in the middle of the night for sex. My other housemate and i heard her talking to this person, and we saw the lights come on ect ect. I waited over a week for her to tell me about it. She didn't. Finally, i confronted her. She completely denied it. I told her i didnt believe her cos i know what i heard and i also know that it wasn't the first time she has done this, as we caught her out another time. The thing is, our contract finishes soon and i am due to move into another place, just me and this girl, but i don't want random men in the house when i'm sleeping, and i can't stand being lied too. I can't afford to live alone, and other than that she's a good housemate. Any advise?...

[Whoever]

If you don't want her bringing strange men into the house and putting the security of your accommodation at risk, then I think you have to be honest with her and tell her so. Perhaps you should point out to her that whilst you like her and enjoy her company, this habit of inviting men in when you're asleep makes you feel insecure and that you're having second thoughts about sharing a flat with her unless she's prepared to promise that she won't do it in future. Perhaps you ought to look for an alternative flat mate anyway. It doesn't sound as if you feel very comfortable with her habits and her behaviour.

[jno]

she's a good housemate except that without warning she brings in strangers who could be burglars, serial killers, or people who don't put the loo seat down. Not my definition of a good housemate, I have to say. I'd suggest talking to her about it as Whoever says, except if she's going to lie about it, what's the point? Personally, I'd feel happier sharing with someone else.

[Mr Veritas]

Mmm Lesbians my favourites!

[Velvetee]

If you have uncomfortable concerns about your flatmate, then you probably really shouldn't be moving in with her.

Saying that, if you live with someone as a flatmate, then you don't have the right to dictate who she brings into the home. However, out of common courtesy, she should really inform you if she plans to bring a friend back and vice versa.

It's a difficult situation, which is why I never flat shared. Perhaps you could consider renting a small studio or renting a room in a family home or even at the YWCA.

If you still plan to move in with her, then you could have a lock on your door, so you feel safer.

[DarkMajes71c]

I have shared a flat with a compulsive lier... if i was you i would be looking hard to find a different flatmate.
to me any relationship be it romantic or otherwise is based on trust... its hard to get and easy to break.

[gen2]

A novel concept that - a compulsive lier. Is that the same as a nymphomaniac?

You'll have to get her to be an outlier rather than an inlier and then you will feel more secure.

[123everton]

Have you got her phone number? She sounds great!!!