Should you go back with an ex?

[Petal~flower]

If he dumped you, in not a very nice way, but is now very keen to get back with you?

Do you try and forgive and forget, or just forget and move on????

[lindapinda]

I used to use "the devil you know" phrase in reference to teachers at school. Not nearly good enough for a relationship.You deserve more!!

[Petal~flower]

Ice, I was getting over him!!! thats the annoying part... was happy man free, well used to being man free anyway, toughened up, can do without all the mind f*ck

ChuckFickens, I had not moved on in a year!!! think I am better off by myself

Thanks for your reply

Am tipsy too!! x

[Petal~flower]

Legend, yeah I know how things are, its been the main thing on my mind.... him.........not getting any sex I reckon.............so wants to get back with the ex...........ME!

I realise all this

Thanks Linda hun xxxxx

[snow.maiden]

Very true Linda, but I can see how petal's been feeling. If you break up with someone that you love, I think a lot of people'd be tempted by a second chance, but because the split was unpleasant, I personally agree that Petal'd be far better off in finding someone else.

[pastafreak]

if he was messing with your mind then-he will continue to play those games. Oh-I am sure he could sweet-talk you quite easily.....but all the more reason to stay away He sounds a manipulator, and if that is so-then you would be doomed to repeat the same pattern with him.......and he would always manage to convince you he is right.

[joggerjayne]

Tipsy sounds jolly, petal. My wine box ran out this evening (sod it!) so I'm pretty sober. Good night to ask me intellectual questions :-)

I wonder if we're all ganging up on your ex? Maybe being without you has made him realize what a w@nker he was, and perhaps he's really going to make sure he's not so stupid again? Oh, you're right, relationships are so hard (although not for me, coz mine only ended last Friday, so I'm firmly in the "good riddance you ******" phase).

[Petal~flower]

Ice, the thing is , I had made no attempt to meet anyone else, well except the blind date last week!! ummmm

But he had moved on pretty soon after our breakup and met other women, and thats the bit I struggle with

[legend006]

T o go back is to admit defeat , to show weakness , to crawl to succumb to heir wishes , to cow tow , to beg , to plead , to do that is worst thing you could do.

Id rather die.

[snow.maiden]

Well hun - you'd split up, so any little flings are of no consequence. It's what happens NOW that matters.

[Petal~flower]

aw Jayne, my bottle is now empty too!!! may have to nick sons lagers if desparate!

but yes, the feeling I get from the ex is that he regrets a lot, he moved away, and is now looking to relocate back to where I live........

Talk about confused.............which I am

[styley]

Nah!

[pastafreak]

Legends right....after my moment of madness when I thought we should get back together-(only because I was scared s******s of being on my own).....I realised I would be belittling myself if I ever mentioned getting back together.....because it would show how little I valued ME.

[Petal~flower]

ice, you think so?

maybe I wanted him to miss me a bit before getting with someone else

OK Legend, made your point, and maybe we are not all as confident as you huh

[legend006]

Legends right !!!!


Welll thats cause for celebration id say ?


Or examination ?

[Petal~flower]

Pasta...........I am just confused xxx

[lindapinda]

We can all give you advice Petal,but,i understand how he has affected you. The thing is,he knows you very well,he knows you have low self esteem,people like him who are manipulative,will always use that against you.THey enjoy the control.

[snow.maiden]

It's never nice to see an ex. with someone new - especially if it happens fast, but put it out of your mind hun. I can see that if you two got back together, you'd maybe start quizzing him about other women. Bad mistake - it'd set arguments off again. My husband left someone for me, which made me feel awful, but within a week she was seeing someone else, and my husband wasn't upset - he was relieved!

[legend006]

Thtas your biggest mistake to assume anything about me .

Illl leave now as it appears ive overstayed my welcome .





Goodnight.

[Petal~flower]

Linda, yeah I know..............I was so different when I was younger.....now totally lost it. dont know who I am now xx

[tiggerblue10]

Hi Petal, hope you are well hun. I haven't got any advise cos I'm useless with relationships (as you may already know Lol) but I just wanted to say hi.

I'm off to bed now but will catch up with you soon. Night hun xxx