Why don't I have any sex drive?

[Velvetee]

Does anyone know? I never think about sex and never want it. I'm constantly fobbing my partner off with excuses. (I know you wouldn't Joggerjane).

Is there anything I can do or take to increase my sex drive?

[unhappychick]

Watch a bit of porn to get you in the mood!

[Velvetee]

Actually that's a good idea, when I spend evenings watching Youporn, I do get quite fruity.

[showcatbenga]

Having just read your other thread in relationships & dating you may well be suffering from depression. Go to your GP - there is a questionaire that you can do that evaluates your mood & will indicate if you are depressed. You don't have to take anti-depressive medication if you don't want. You should be offered Cognative Behaviour Therapy ( CBT). Most surgeries offer it as a computer programme with some homework that you complete at your own speed. It helps about 80% of depressed people. Or you could just go for a brisk 30 minute walk each day - it is as effective as taking a daily anti-depressant. Feel well soon - x.

[Velvetee]

I have suffered from depression before, but I don't feel like i did then, but then maybe I have a milder form this time. I really don't have any reasons to be depressed, but then you don't need reasons with clinical depression.

[Velvetee]

I also suffer from severe PMS and have a bout of it now. Can low sex drive be attributed to PMS. Does anyone know?

[stonekicker]

sometimes your get up and go just gets up and goes! it could be a variety of things:
1. being a bit depressed (as discussed above)
2. having too much else on your plate (work, family, home etc.)
3. feeling unappreciated by your partner or unfulfilled sexually - more likely to make you not bother
4. time of the month or longer cyclical phases
5. maybe deeper problems in your relationship?
6. age - not being rude, but i'm guessing you are not a randy teen and maybe your hormones play a role here
7. circumstances - mine is having teenage children loitering round the house - a libido killer if ever i saw one!

god - there are lots of things here just thinking off the top of my head. i know that i have experienced some of them and they are not always easy to identify and even harder to talk about. but you should talk things through with your partner so that you don't create another problem in this area to add to the existing one. and don't forget, you can always enjoy things yourself(!) before you get ready to share with him indoors again...good luck

[hippyhoppy]

I always thought PMS was a form of depression - mood swings, etc. And hideous cramps aren't condusive to a fruity mood!!

[showcatbenga]

Severe PMS is enough to make anyone depressed! Seriously though, try a chat through your 'symptoms' with your GP - book a double appointment so you'll have enough time. I think there are some things that can be done for PMS & it can be indicative of other problems which the GP can check out or refer you to a specialist that can.

[Velvetee]

I have been to GP countless times, regarding PMS, they just say take Evening Primrose Oil. It does absolutely nothing for me.

Thing is, it's not just for two weeks of the month, I seem to be like this indefinitely these days. Plus my boobs are so sore, any kind of movement where they may move, causes excrutiating pain. It's so hard being a woman!

[hippyhoppy]

Apparently this can help...

http://www.healthspan.co.uk/vegetarian/st_john _s_wort_tablets_900mcg_hypericin/ProductDetail -p425-c3193427.aspx?campaign=google_generic&kw =st+johns+wort&referrer=GOOH-106

[razmataz]

Hi Velvetee, with regards to your problem, I have experienced this. It was when I was depressed and I was on anti-depressants. I wasn't into sex for six years. Then I came off, and now I can't get enough. Which isn't always a good thing.

Something you should ask yourself first of all is, though, 'is it that I don't want to have sex at all' or that 'I don't want to have sex with my current partner'. For example, does the idea of another person make you long for sex? If you ask yourself these sorts of questions, you can determine whether you're not interested in sex with your current partner, or simply the idea sex in general. If anything, this will help you to evaluate the nature of the relationship with your partner.

Think about that and get back to me!

[Velvetee]

No Razmataz, not interested in doing it with anyone.

[Octavius]

Lots of reading material, opinions, options and advice here:

http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/womenshealth/featur es/sexualdesire.htm

Happy reading.

[B00]

Haven't recently had a child have you?

I pretty much lost mine when I became pregnant with Mini Boo over 3 years ago and have never really got it back.

I could, quite honestly, live with never having sex ever again.