Feeling a fool

[lil123]

I met a guy on this internet dating site and things were going great for a while. Anyway to cut a long story short I found out he had gone back on the same site looking for another woman. I suspected as he was acting really funny with me and kept letting me down.
I felt sick when I found out he had been back on there ages and was just keeping me going until he found someone else.
As anyone else had something like this happen to them and if so how did they deal with it ?

[sara3]

yep, been there, done that!

it's harsh but that's what dating sites are like. I ended up setting up fake profiles with no pics to find out if someone was still online and I was (sadly) right.

dating sites have a "sweetie shop" effect. you go on there looking for "the one" but suddenly everyone finds you attractive.. not really like in the real world! so you meet someone and they could be perfect, but you just can't help but wonder about the other ones that were interested....

not everyone is like that. I'm seeing someone now and he seems v genuine. it's pot luck and you have been sh*t upon. I'm sorry. it's happened to me too, more than once. you just have to pick yourself up and move on. feel sorry for whoever is next on his list, and be grateful you found out what he was like now, and not years down the line.

you're worth more than this.

[lil123]

Thanks sara3. I know I'm worth more than that and his loss as I was totally faithful to him and would never have even been tempted to go behind his back x

[lajohn]

You can only feel like a fool if you think you're a fool.

[lil123]

Yep thats true la john! I need to re phase it to saved from a fool lol x

[SpamBammer]

why dont you go go out in real life and find someone.
internet dating site are like how sad, and espcially the people that use them???

[Velvetee]

This is the norm for people who become serial internet daters, which I expect this guy is. Meeting people via an online dating site, makes meeting people so easy, that it's simple to keep going back and looking for "something better".

If I were you, I would steer clear of these online losers and meet someone in the real world, who wants a genuine relationship.

[lajohn]

Take this as a learning experience. At least the friendship didn't reach to the point where you slept with him, then found all this out.

[gureenlegend]

Youre assuming now john?
I think that online relationships are at best tenuous.Theres always a degree of dishonesty in them because on eor even both folk in the relationship goes back online snifffing around.They trust their partner very little because they reckon one day they will go back online sniffing too.


Avoid them i think theyre dangerous.

[Sgt.Rock]

Dating sites are full of married men looking for a quick leg over. Avoid.

[gureenlegend]

And what about the bints sarge?

[Sgt.Rock]

Yes, please. Tell me more.

[WhiteBear]

lil123
they are slimballs, cheating lying gits!! but not all are like that! just dont get drawn to the ones who thinks hes 'it' and thinks he can get what ever he wants and gets away with it. xx

[Velvetee]

I think dating sites had genuine members some years ago, until, (like some have said), married men and men in relationships found it could be used as a knocking shop. As did some women.

I used dating sites for about two years and met some bizarre characters. Most of these men claimed to be seeking longterm relationships, but the reality was they enjoyed meeting new women every week and often for sex.

Unfortunately, dating sites are now full of misfits, who are incapable of having an honest, monogamous relationship. I met my partner through a friend, I think that can be the most successful method of introduction.

[lil123]

Thanks everyone for your helpful advice. I wont be meeting anyone off them again. Only the real world for me now lol x

[gucciman]

its not just men, my x and i met on faceparty but she carried on chatting to blokes behind my back, and i suspect having sex with them, she kept me hanging on until she found someone she liked, dumped me and about a month later she married him.

[sara3]

lil, this behaviour isn't limited to dating sites. you're right to be wary, but not everyone plays such games.

use them, but keep your wits about you.. same as you would in the real world.

[Diz]

Yep, a few years ago I was on a dating website, got chatting to a guy, arranged to meet but he kept letting me down, rang a number I had for him (that he asked me not to use!) and got an answerphone from Mr & Mrs ****** so left a message saying who I was and asking him why he didn't meet me as arranged. Not sure if that was the right thing to do but I think Mrs had a right to know and I was very angry.

However dating sites can work, just after this I met a wonderful man who in 11 weeks will be my hubby!