viagra

[minnie1974]

hello all, my partner and i have only been together about five months and sex between us is non exsistent, im thinking of buying some viagra off the internet, but i would like too know if i crush it and put it a drink would it still work and be effective? please help ive tried too talking to him about this, but he gets all defensive...dont know what else too do??

[China Doll]

Well does he actually have a problem getting and maintaining an erection or is it that your sex drives are incompatible? Viagra will not fix the latter.

Besides which, it's a prescribed drug for a reason so getting it off the internet is not the best idea.

[minnie1974]

he's older than me he's 54 and im 34, he has had problems with sustaining an erection, but only through sex, he can masturbate without any problems

[minnie1974]

just feel totally unattractive and unwanted, too me making love is an important part of any relationship and its just become a taboo subject, ive aksed him so many times if he'd make love too me and everytime he's rejected me so much so i dont ask anymore

[minnie1974]

ha ha ha!!!

[China Doll]

Well personally I think it's something to go see the quacks about or if he doesn't want to do that then research herbal remmedies (go to a proper chinese or general herbal shop, no internet). You cetainly shouldn't be drugging him on the sly, it's not only very dangerous but a violation of trust. I mean, how would you feel if it was reversed and you found out your other half had been dosing you up?

You could always try leaving the sex out for a bit and going manual or oral so that it takes the importance and pressure of the actual sex act off him which might be stressing him out and won't improve the situation.

Ultimately if he can't and won't communicate about sex then maybe taking stock of the relationship is needed. Sex is not the be all of a relationship but I think it's an important part of it and you're both certainly old enough to have a rational discussion about it. (I never understood people who were happy to have sex but couldn't discuss it). It may be that a compromise needs to be reached but that is obviously not going to happen without a discussion.

[lajohn]

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[lajohn]

can you imagine secretly giving him Viagra, he then gets an erection and it cannot go down. then you'll be making up for all the times you missed doing 'it'. have fun!

[Velvetee]

Well Minnie, there is obviously a reason why he doesn't want to have sex with you. It doesn't sound like he needs Viagra, maybe you both need relationship councelling instead.

[terambulan]

Aha....he's getting it elsewhere.....I'd poke him in the goolies and kick him out! The rat!

[nannon]

isn't that ileagal?! What if it reacted with something else he was taking?!
I certainly wouldnt be happy if someone crushed medication and put it in my drink!
And it's not like he wouldn't realise.....!

[Booldawg]

It may not have the desired effect; he might just dissapear into the bathroom all afternoon with a rolled up copy of 'Penthouse' under his arm

[MiniN]

bad idea to buy drugs off the internet because you don't know what you're getting. it might not be viagra, it could be female hormones for all you know and could start growing breasts!!

ALSO a bad idea to spike his drink. have you not heard that viagra can trigger undiagnosed heart conditions. seriously, people have died of heart attacks from taking viagra.

if you've only been together 5months and sex is more important to you than it is to him, then ditch him and find someone who is more compatable to you!

[jno]

sounds like he has a problem of some sort, but poisoning him isn't the answer. You need to discuss it. If he can't because pressure to talk just adds to his performance enxiety, then he should seek therapy. If he won't do that either, then it's up to you to decide if you want to go on this way. He's not really pulling his weight (ahem ahem) in this relationship, is he?

[dustinmyeye]

i have to say very few of you commented on the idea of " crushing it and putting it in his drink " which i find slightly disturbing, ive a feeling if a man had said he was considering putting something in a drink to make a woman have sex with him then hed have been brandished a date rapist by now.