Hi Shellp, please dont take offence to this, but every post I have seen from you, always relates back to your feelings about your ex, which tells me you are still hurting inside and still have feelings left for him. I have been in a very violent relationship and know the damage it causes, especially to your self esteem, its as though it drains you of everything, you are left not believing in yourself anymore and feel quite vulnerable.
My advice to you is to forget these other men at the moment, Keep them as friends but nothing more yet! you need time to get your confidence back and find yourself again....when I was in your situation I attracted the wrong people becuase I was in no fit state of mind. Once I eventually got myself together, I decided I was worth a lot more than what I was getting and set my sights higher, I believe in myself, which is what I think you need to do.
Forget your ex, they never change, I know from 1st hand experience, you are worth more than a man who hits out on a women, they are just cowards. I feel sorry for his new girlfriend, although hopefully she will realise what hes like and get shot of him. These types of men are all the same, trust me, all out for themselves and dont care who they hurt in the process of getting what they want. You need to accept the reality of things in order to get over it...I hope it doesnt take you too long...best of luck xxx