in addition to being forgiven

[anthonysgirl]

My fiance I believe has not cheated on me. He tells me that he could never do that to me because he loves me too much. He tells me that if I don't do something about it and ever hurt him again that he is going to ruin my career and my life. He tells me that and that he loves me all with in a 30 minute window, and that we are going to work on it. I understand having rage, sometimes it is hard but I figure I have to be punished for what I did. I do have to say that the second time I did this that I stopped it right away because I felt so horrible. I tell him this but he never believes anything I say How do I get him to believe me?

[cazzz1975]

Im actually confused by this post, why do you think he has cheated? why would he threaten to ruin your life and career? he sounds unhinged, you also sound like a bit of a doormat.

maybe your not, the post has confused me somewhat

[redcrx]

cazzzz
all will be revealed if you read the previous thread.

anthonysgirl. Get out and move on, its already been said.

[QueenOfAmber]

I'm kind of confused?
Sorry, if I can't understand the post I can't actually answer it! lol :)

[anthonysgirl]

basically what I was trying to get at is that he is very fickle. He has these moments of rage and wants to like hurt me so badly then shortly after decides that he loves me and wants to work things out. I know that he hasn't cheated on me and I hadn't cheated on him before. I had before in other relationships but only when they were flaky and weren't really relationships just flings. He is 33 and I am 21 there were some questions reguarding our age so I thought I would just put those questions to rest.

[redcrx]

"He has these moments of rage and wants to like hurt me so badly"

read what youve written there and then find another excuse to hang on to him.

[anthonysgirl]

I don't mean physically I just mean like he wants to ruin my career and he wants me to pay the ultimate price. He told me last night that he wanted my family to hate me and that he wanted my life to fall apart. Today he told me that if I decide to leave him that he wouldn't do that to me

[cazzz1975]

this guy doesnt sound all there if he is hoping you have all this misfortune, take everyones advice and give him a wide berth

[redcrx]

physically or mentally, it makes no difference.

get some strength woman and leave him, dont just sit there and faff

[sara3]

is this any more realistic than your last thread?

yaaaaaaaaaaaawn.

[redcrx]

go on sara, say "spotted", you know you want to :)

[sara3]

SO SPOTTED!

thank you, red x

[cazzz1975]

is this a troll then?

[anthonysgirl]

spotted?

[weeal]

pmsl (again)
who is this lol

[Velvetee]

You are obviously too young and naive to realise, but you are in an abusive relationship with a man who sounds like he has a screw or two loose.

[beso]

Your boyfriend is a psycho. He will never let go of this no matter what you do. He will hold this over you forever. If you stay together one day he will belt you for it too. And he will have convinced you that you deserve it.

This relationship has no future other than pain and grief. Get out now.

[anthonysgirl]

Thank you for you posts. Some were appreciated some were not. I wasn't really looking for advice whether we should break up or not that isn't going to happen. We both love each other very much I only wanted idea's on how to make things better again for us. I will be deleted all of this in just a few minutes. Thank you but no thank you

[ifonlyu2]

Once again your the victim. LOL your a joke. You ruined a good mans emotions. I bet you money before you cheated he never in his right mind would even think such thoughts. And also he wanted nothing more then to take care of you. He is not the bad news you are and deserve nothing but the hate he gives you. This is what you get for cheating on him. I say good for him. Now if he hits you then leave but if he want a show of true faith then good for him. I can see what he is doing. He wants the truth. Are you really in love with him still or with the other guy. Good luck tick mark.