Online dating

[janethompson]

Do people have success on online dating sites?

[Velvetee]

I would say it works for a small minority of people. Having tried a variety of dating sites and been on a number of dates, I found the majority of these men to be serial daters, who got a buzz from meeting a new woman every week.

Some were really just looking for casual sex, but pretended they were seeking a relationship and a couple it turned out were actually married. I started relationships with a couple (not at same time), but later found they were still contacting women from the sites and arranging dates secretly.

I think the problem with dating sites is that it's so very easy to meet new people, without making any effort whatsoever. I eventually met my current partner through a introduction by another friend, which I think is the best way.

[HJT40]

My best friend and her husband met on an internet dating site. It turned out that she had recently sold her house 5 minutes from where he lived.

They are now married and have a baby. However, I tried it and it didn't work. I found my husband to be next door!

[China Doll]

My mum met my step-dad on an internet dating site, it worked for them but personally I wouldn't touch them with a metaphorical barge pole.

[Annna]

Velvetee is right. On line dating often leads to serial daters more addicted to dating than wanting to meet the right person and stick to that one relationship. It can work if you do both really want the same thing. It is better than not meeting anyone at all. So give it a go, but be realistic and try and weed out the time wasters from the genuine. Good luck.

[sqad617]

What do you mean by "success" and also depends on what you are looking for.
1) If you are looking for a sexual encounter, then the success rate is high.
2) If you are looking for a long term realationship, then the succes rate is fairly low.

[QueenOfAmber]

I think mainly on dating sites it sadly doesn't work. :( Usually (this is just my opinion - very true of course! lol) it's mainly a sexual relationship 9.5 times out of 10. Besides, if you want a serious relationship with someone wouldn't you like to see their face first and get to know them that way? (They might be ugly! lol jk!)
I noticed you're green (which means your new! ;D) and I'd like to say:

WELCOME! ;D

[sqad617]

Qof A.....she is not that green if she is enquiring about dating sites LOL

[QueenOfAmber]

I mean her username squad! ;D
I don't mean her personally.

[sara3]

they've never worked for me.. but I know a couple of people it has worked for.

[sqad617]

Qof A...I know , that is why I put LOL at the end

[weeal]

Theyve never worked for me, the guys were loonies

[oldgrape]

i met my ex on dating site had a kid with him (now aged 2) but he screwed me over big time.

i really like dating sites

[QueenOfAmber]

oh, right squad. ;)

[kira000]

I met my OH on a dating site- we are in process of buying a house together.
2 of my other friends likewise, one is now married as a result, the other is engaged..

I agree i met some wierdo's, liars and guys after sex, but being honest, havent most of us met guys like that out "in the real world" too? I've met more than my fair share of such in bars, clubs, parties and even work.

So, be open minded, by realistic, be alert, be cautious, and dont rush into things..... and trust your gut instincts!

I did try a number of dating sites and they do vary- some are really geared to a slightly, umm, down market audience- lots of txt spkrs on it. Some seem to get players, but i eventually found 2 sites that i liked the approach of, so its a case of looking around and finding the one that suits you.

[mydogsandme]

Kira can you tell us which sites you found to be good? I'm currently registered on a couple of sites.

[Drisgirl]

Can also be a bit of a boost if youre down as well.

Nothing like a wee bit chat to give you confidence without actually meeting them.

I do know people who have been successful tho -its like meeting someone in a pub -you dont if they are married and just after a quickie or whether they are genuine -its a risk we have all realistically taken.

[kira000]

I quite liked Parship- it uses a personlity test to get a bit of an insight into what is important to you in a relationship and identify key traits.. then it score other people against how compatible they are with you. You can still choose who to get in touch with, but if you contact someone with a high score, regardless of their interests etc, you know that at some level, you'll have a simlar or at least complementary perspective.

Also photos arent visible from the off, so people cant do the "candy shop" thing and go by just photo. Sure, you'll need to be attracted to move forward, but the players are less willing to "risk" contacting blind.

And i'd like to say, i was in touch with decent looking fellas from it, so it wasnt just for mingers!

[Velvetee]

I tried Parship too Kira, but never met anyone through it and rarely got any matches.

I've also tried Dating Direct, Direct Dating, Love & friends, Millionaire Match, Beautiful People, Match, Plenty of Fish, Interaccial Match, Udate, Yahoo Personals.

Probably loads more too, glad I don't have to do all that rubbish anymore.

[happyone2]

i find datng sites dispiriting myself, not being a "angelica jolie " look alikey i find i get looked at alot but no one follows up !!!! and even if you send a wink, or email they look and then dont reply either !!!

it can knock your confidence.

And then when you get someone interested, they are either not really ready for a relationship or already in one !!!

some just want u to have sex..........especially if they have paid for the meal ....( i soon learnt to pay for myself !!), some havent ever had sex and some are just ........well.............weird...........

to date, ive met a couple of men who have become good friends........................... but no romance......................