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Am I being irritated over nothing?
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I've been seeing this guy for about 4.5 months now and he is beginning to irritate me. This may sound harsh but he tells me he loves/misses me about 50 times a day. Although I like being told I'm loved... this is too much. I'll leave his house and I receive a text 2 mins later saying he misses me. I get a text 7.45am each morning with the same sort of message "morning, love you, missed you" It's driving me nuts... but I feel if I'm out of order if I say its all too much. One day I received 15 texts all before 9am on the way to work - and some of the messages where like " just seen your mate walking her dog" AAUUURRRGGGHHHH... what do I say, what do I do? Constant texts/miss you/love you is driving me mad! I'm quite an independant person and like my own space and can't handle all this.
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No, he has never moaned if I don't text in the mornings first. He did get the hump when I wanted to go out with my mates one time, which we had a row over. He doesn't like to spend a minute alone. If I don't see him, he will invite his mate round. He is hardly ever on his own. I on the other hand love my own space... maybe we are just too different.
I've got a mate who texts his girlfriend all the time, and he's fairly possessive. None of us think she's cheating but he's convinced she is, and gets very agitated if she doesn't reply to him straight away. She finds it irritating, and I think their relationship will finish.
Daisycup, if he's irritating you so early on in the relationship, then I think it might be time to think about how suited you are to each other. Is he overly attentive when you are together?
Daisycup, if he's irritating you so early on in the relationship, then I think it might be time to think about how suited you are to each other. Is he overly attentive when you are together?
I'm with you daisycup- it'd get on my bloody nerves too. And at the risk of sounding like a bitch here, I'd have finished with him based on those texts alone- too needy and clingy.
Incidently- you don't have to tell someone you love them back just because they did first- next time- keep shtum when he says it ;-)
Incidently- you don't have to tell someone you love them back just because they did first- next time- keep shtum when he says it ;-)
Daisycup, from a guy's perspective here.........I think he's very possessive and insecure. Jealousy can stem from that, and trust me that isn't pleasant to live with.
I know we've never chatted before, but please think carefully about your future with this guy. For what it's worth, I would seriously consider ending the relationship. It will probably deteriorate and you'll end up hating each other.
I know we've never chatted before, but please think carefully about your future with this guy. For what it's worth, I would seriously consider ending the relationship. It will probably deteriorate and you'll end up hating each other.
So Daisy, how do you feel about your loved up guy, do you really love him too?
When I met my Fiance, he was a bit over the top and practically moved in with me within a week of us starting to see each other. We saw each other everyday and I welcomed any time away from him. Like you I was very independent, I'd lived alone for years and even when I had been in longterm relationships, continued to keep my own home.
Now we are living together and about to get married, he is alot calmer in the situation. He's definitely more tactile and romantic than I am and does still gush over me alot. He still tells me he loves me everyday and dotes on me.
Whilst this can be suffocating at times, when I tell him I need some space, he will back off a bit, but I am happy that I am with such a sensitive, loving and caring man, who adores me. I'd rather have that, than some of the "donkey" holes I've been out with previously.
When I met my Fiance, he was a bit over the top and practically moved in with me within a week of us starting to see each other. We saw each other everyday and I welcomed any time away from him. Like you I was very independent, I'd lived alone for years and even when I had been in longterm relationships, continued to keep my own home.
Now we are living together and about to get married, he is alot calmer in the situation. He's definitely more tactile and romantic than I am and does still gush over me alot. He still tells me he loves me everyday and dotes on me.
Whilst this can be suffocating at times, when I tell him I need some space, he will back off a bit, but I am happy that I am with such a sensitive, loving and caring man, who adores me. I'd rather have that, than some of the "donkey" holes I've been out with previously.
Love is different for everyone. I'm sure he thinks he's in love with you, daisycup. Do you love him? Are you 'in love' with him? Can you imagine life without him? Think about it carefully, and you'll know what to do.
I've dated two women who insisted that I text them throughout the day, and I got nagged if I didn't text 'Good Morning' etc. It irritated the life out of me, and I used to switch my mobile off unless I needed it for work. They put me off texting to be honest.
I've dated two women who insisted that I text them throughout the day, and I got nagged if I didn't text 'Good Morning' etc. It irritated the life out of me, and I used to switch my mobile off unless I needed it for work. They put me off texting to be honest.
I thought I loved him... but all this is putting me off. I don't want to be in a relationship like this. I don't want to be made to feel like I have to tell someone I love them. If I say it I want to mean it and it be my choice to say it. Not be told off coz I haven't said it today. I'm not an insecure person at all and maybe that is the problem. He is and i'm not, we clash.
