Understanding men!

[blondie83]

I have been with my man for almost 2 months now. He seems really keen on me, tells me how special I am to him and how he wants to be with me for....well, a really long time! Anyways, at the last minute, he went away to visit family and everytime I ask him when he's coming back, he doesn't answer the question! I'm kinda feeling like he's gone off me and doesn't wanna see me again, but he still txts me saying he's thinking about me and misses me ect. Am i just being paranoid? I really like him, but I'm not letting myself get in to deep, just incase I get hurt.
What do you think?

[sqad617]

"I've been with a man for 2months".....wow! that is a deep long standing relationship. 2months, 8 weeks, you musy know each ither quite well by now.

He is probably going back to his wife and family and having sex with you.

[cazzz1975]

sounds like either he wants to take the relationship much slower or he is hiding something like a wife or gf :/

[LoftyLottie2]

My immediate reaction is that he is involved elsewhere. Why else would he not be giving you answers.?

Sqad is right two months is a very short relationship.

[blondie83]

2 months might not be long but you gotta start somewhere. Thanks for your kind and helpful words!!!

[cazzz1975]

he wouldnt be so evasive unless he has something to hide from you

[LoftyLottie2]

Sorry Blondie, my words were meant to be helpful. It might have been said in a more kindly way, but I think you should be wary.

[sqad617]

Rule 1 of CBSA (charismatic b@stard and serial philanderer)

Always tell the woman what she wants to hear.....usually..."you are very special to me and we have a great future"

Put your trousers back on and then slide off home.

[blondie83]

Hi Lofty, sorry, my comment wasn't aimed at you, it was for Squad! lol.
I know he isn't seeing anyone else though, (well, least i honestly don't think that he is, one of the many things we have talked about is cheating and we both promised never to do it....) plus Iv met his dad and his family know all about me.........

[sqad617]

Rule 2 of CBSA....." Always tell them that you would never cheat on them"

[cazzz1975]

maybe he justs wants some freedom? the early part of a relationship although nice can be stifling if you are the clingy type

[cazzz1975]

lol sqad I do agree, also he may have another girl on the sly

[ummmm]

In these 8 weeks how much time have actually spent together? I mean, a relationship where you see each other most nights progresses a lot quicker than one where you see each other at weekends.

[JimmyCooper]

He's with another woman/his wife

Just say outright wehen are you coming back

[blondie83]

its just odd. I'm not the clingy type atall, in fact, more the opposite, I actually feel umcomfortable sometimes when he says soppy stuff cos i'm not ready for that yet! ah well, il just have to see what happens next.
Thanks everyone.

[blondie83]

Hi Ummmm, weve been seeing eachother quite alot tbh. well, prob about 5 nights a week and it's me who says im not seeing him the other 2 nights, not him!

[LoftyLottie2]

Just tread carefully blondie. I don't understand why he can't give you an answer as to how long he will be away. How long has he been away so far, and is it far away. What family is he visiting.

You seem to have both feet on the ground though.

[LoftyLottie2]

ps Sqad doesn't mince his words. He calls a spade a spade, but he's OK really. He pretends to be an unemotional fella, but I have my doubts!! :o)

[ummmm]

He might be being evasive because it's something personal that he doesn't feel ready to tell you yet.

It's not always negative as above posters have said.

I avoided my BF because I had financial issues I didn't want him to know about.

[ummmm]

Is sqad JL??

[sqad617]

lottie....LOL LOL...go on, tell me you love me.