Can someone explain to me how men think?!!!!

[Barmaid]

Men, honestly! I met someone whom I thought to be genuine 5 weeks ago. He is wonderful in every way, attentive, funny, talks to me, listens to me, tactile, caring, makes me laugh and is a true gentleman. As a wonderful addition he takes me to fantastic places, buys me flowers for no reason whatsoever, whispers sweet nothings, sends me sweet texts, calls me just to say he is thinking of me etc.

He has been "hinting" for the last 2 weeks about us being together permanently and him moving in. So tonight the subject came up along with a professional dinner to which he is escorting me. All of a sudden, I am now agreeing with him (hitherto, I have backed off and calmed it down) and now he is the one who suddenly has cold feet. Is he playing me? Is he toying with me? It takes a lot for me to be able to open up to someone and to me it is all a bit soon, but it was inevitable that I was going to be worn down by his constant "love making" (and I don't mean that in a sexual sense). He seems to have worked really hard to get me to that point, yet when he gets it, it freaks him out.

Should I just think "sod it another player" and pick up where I left off?!

[beso]

One reason some women don't understand men is the assumption that there is a standard way that men think.

We are individuals. There is no one way that men think. You might start to get somewhere if you change this perception.

Have you considered asking him instead of us? The poor communication skills of some women is another huge reason why they don't understand men.

This problem is largely due to emotional self obsession which is rife anong women.

[Bbbananas]

beso.
The first 2 paragraphs I thought "Mmmm, not such a bad perspective." Sensible & fairly correct methought".
Then I read your next paragraph....
Then you completely c0cked it up with your last paragraph.
Nuff said.