I need someones help!

[lizwolf7]

I have known this guy for about 7 months we went to college together and were always friends in school yet never hung out outside of class. Yet we went out supposly as friends in feb when I got him he gave me a valentines day gift and took me to a movie and paid...we went back to his house to chill after and some stuff happened...then last week we went out again to the movies and dinner and went back to his place didn't think it was gonna happen but it happened again( u know what I mean) and he was just totally connecting with me like he really cares( he always makes the 1st move) he will txt me once in a while he'll check on me the thing that really confuses me is that he has a girlfriend...ya Why is he doing this? Do u think he has feelings for me? Why won't he leave her he is already cheating..I just need advice please please..

[B00]

I don't understand why you feel the need to "understand his mind".....that's certainly not the part of his anatomy he's thinking with.

[aniani]

This thread is entitled " I need someone's help". It would be a good idea for you to read all the answers, accept the advice given and think seriously. It is unlikely that you will receive the answer you appear to want!

[sqad617]

Boo........naughty.......what is she thinking with?

[bigmamma]

Liz honey , you say he's cheating on his gf , the guys a cad , drop him and see if he comes running . I like the others advice to you about saying no too , of-course he's going to make you feel special , connected , and the only one when he wants sex . Have you also thought how it may be wrong what you're doing too , plaaying around with someone elses boyfriend , you knew he had a girlfriend love .
I would tread carefully , someone's going to get hurt , and it won't be him . x

[lizwolf7]

And I didnt want to have sex either I said no and he insisted so it wasn't me... He kept saying to me the 1st time that he is just confused ( he always wanted to hang with me but always thought I had a man)..hmm and doesn't have feelings for her she calls him babe he says and he can't say it bak..yaa? just doesn't wanna Hurt her he says.. Well I think he has hurt her enough

[Ice.Maiden]

Well sorry to say, but the blunt truth of it is, that a lot of guys'd do the same thing if they thought they could get away with it. There's no need for any great analysis. He does it because you let him.

[rinkins]

So he forced you to have sex then? That's something else altogether. Liz, there is plenty of advice here. The guy is a jerk. Bigmamma is right, he will not be the one who gets hurt. Stop wasting your time worrying about how his brain works. Leave it as an unsolved mystery and move on.

[sqad617]

BM...wow! giving the guy a plug......well almost LOL
Well said BM

How is Sicilly and your "boys?".....LOL

[B00]

LOL!!!

I'm sorry what? You said no to sex but he insisted? Isn't that a form of rape??

[redcrx]

of course hes going to say he doesnt have feelings for her. If he said "i love her to bits, but sex on the quiet is what im looking for" would you still have rushed to him??

some men will tell you exactly what you want to hear just to get what they want. These are the ones to watch out for and tbh it sounds like hes one of them.

[no-knowledge]

lizwolf7
Wed 25/03/09
14:20 Question Author

What do u mean by status quo exactly ...???
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Whatever you want
Whatever you like
Whatever you say
You pay your money
You take your choise
Whatever you need
Whatever you use
Whatever you win
Whatever you loose

Youre showing of
Youre showing out
You look for trouble
Turn around, give me a shout
I take it all
You squeeze me dry
And now today
You couldnt even say goodbye

I could take you home
On the midnight train again
I could make an offer you cant refuse
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strangely i think Quo have it covered.

[rinkins]

LOL no know, very good!

[sqad617]

Rule 1 of CBSA (Charismatic ******** and Serial Philanderers)......always tell them what they want to hear.

Rule 2..if it is a matter of you saying I love you before she will proceed...say..".I love you."

Rule 3..If you are getting fed up with her, tell her that you can't face being dishonest any more.

Rule 4...Never give her up until you have another lined up.

[lizwolf7]

U all awsome thank you! My last comment about him alot of u say leave him alone and see if he still comes I've done that I left him alone and he came crawling back... So confusing but you all are right...

[lizwolf7]

Squad617 ur smart =-)

[daniela31]

Go out and find yourself a nice bloke who just wants YOU and no-one else.

[Lore]

No - know, that has to be the funniest thing I've ever scrolled down to! :)

Liz - Please tell me you're using protection. Afterall, you could be one of 10 he's connecting with - 11 counting his girlfriend!

[lizwolf7]

Yes I am using protection :-) he knows to if he ever did anything to hurt me like STD I would kill him ha but yes I am!

[rinkins]

Phew, thank goodness for that.

[Stone-Monkey]

Daniela's right Liz, you deserve someone who wants only you. I don't think you could ever trust him if he did leave his girlfriend. I hope you find some happiness. x