summed up in one phrase...any kind of bad manners.
I don't mean throwing socks around or belching, but all the stuff you have mentioned, lying, cheating, abuse other forms of disrespect.....its all just plain old bad manners!
Refusal to communicate. My first wife was like that, distant, cold, unpleasant and would never say what was the matter. I'd never put up with that again.
infidelity, violence, lying, selfishness, inconsiderate, not cleaning up after themselves and me, not being able to cook or drive, crap in bed, smelly,