childhood sweethearts

[nix-j-c]

how many childhood sweethearts actually get married?

and stay together?

[coccinelle]

well, I know quite a few actually. They're like soulmates. By the way, when you say childhood what age does this go upto?

[nix-j-c]

well at a age before you can get married i supose.

[gossipgirl]

my friends parents got together when they were 14 and, her mother fell pregnant with her when she was 16. Happy to say that they are still together to this very day and are still madly in love with eachother.

[Beatrice35]

My parents friends fell in love whilst just 14 at school, married at 16 + are still together ( they are both 60 years old) + very happily married. Met them a few times- they look at one another with a deep love in their eyes + smile at each other with a beauty that could melt the hardest of hearts. They call each other soul mates, too. What is sad however, is that she is dying of a brain tumour ( she has already gone over a year past the doctor's prediction that she would live for). She is preparing a memory book + a book full of positive snippets for him to comfort him after her death too. He was best man at my parent's wedding. My parents are also soul mates who met at the age of 18 ( married at the age of 20 + now approaching their 60th birthdays). Know many many more people who were childhood sweethearts that got married + are still together so it is probably more common than you realise.
Warmest wishes to you nix-j-c :-), Bea :-)

[nix-j-c]

just wondering because of this - http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/R elationships-and-Dating/Question740189.html

and what might happen in the future because he's perfect for me + in august we're going on a trip where we'll spends about a week together but ther'll be other people we know of the same age there . . . soooooo . ..

[Beatrice35]

If it is meant to be, then all will be well. Jealousy or fear are destructive needless emotions if you trust an individual. If the relationship is strong then no eyes will wander + you will only have eyes for one another as long as you treat one another with respect, love + devotion. So do not worry. If his eyes wonder + he cannot be trusted then he is not worthy of you anyhow. Sometimes we find our soul mates in youth, sometimes much later- there is no hurry or competition- what is right for you + who is right for you will come to you at the right time. Fear not.
Warm wishes, Bea :-)

[nix-j-c]

i trust him.

but he's really clever - so i think he's actually worked out i realy like him. and OMG i just remembered last night he said are you attrated too me or something and i was in shock so much i can't rmemeber what i said.

[Beatrice35]

Maybe he wants you to admit to it first as he maybe, just maybe, keen on you + wants to be more than friends also. So whatever you do, do not deny your feelings as if he has feelings for you + you say you are not interested he will take you at your word( guys tend to take us women literally) + may move on to someone else so please be honest with him. Good luck, Bea :-)

[sqad617]

I would have said far less common now than it used to be.
We are now looking at a divorce rate of around 40% and that doeesn't include those who are living apart.

A more interesting question would be how many of the perhaps 40% still married, including soul mates, have been faithful?

How many still married wished they had married someone else, but remain together "for the sake of the children?"

Just some thoughts to chew over.

[Beatrice35]

Squad- glass half empty- There may be some who stay together yet are not happy + there are some who wished they had married someone else yet still stay together + there are some who are unfaithful, yet, regardless of percentages there are some soul mates + know many of them who have been married for many decades + never been unfaithful + are as in love with one another now as they were when they first married- true love does exist whether you want to acknowledge this fact or not :-)
Warm wishes, Bea :-)

[nix-j-c]

bea can you look on my other post and tell me what you think?

[sqad617]

Bea........I am looked upon as a "glass half full man" !!!

Unfortunately or otherwise my life has been evolved around dealing in facts..............sometimes with unromantic and astonishing results.

I feel that the success of a marriage is a reflection upon the individuals rather than the institution of marriage.

[sqad617]

Bea.....in the group that you describe as "never been unfaithful"....how do you know that?

[Beatrice35]

Can assure you that my parents + my parents friends are most definitely in this category as are many people that know- very happily married + always been faithful. Yet, unlike you have faith in Love/True Love + in a Christian God. Not a professional cynic like you squad. Sometimes, you just know a fact to be a fact!! Warm wishes, Bea :-)

[sqad617]

"Most definately" is not good enough........of limited value

Bea my love you are 35yrs old.........quite young in the "marriage game" and also in the experience of "life".
I would guess, probably incorrectly, that you have been married for less than 5yrs.....still in the flush of marital bliss.

I have no objections at all to your religious beliefs and find them character building.

But to say that these relationships that we are discussing are "most definatetely" fidel is going out on a limb.

[shanilisa]

My parents have been together since they were 16 years old. They are now 66 years old. I certainly don't believe that their relationship has been moonlight and roses, but they still love each other after all these years. They have worked hard on their marriage and have not considered divorce as an option - I would say that they are generally happy.

[betterman]

I have known my wife since i was about 8, im 33 now and been with her since i was 16, love her madly, i miss her even after a few hours apart, cant wait to wake in the mornings just to see her face and talk to her.

[nix-j-c]

aaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

[Beatrice35]

squad knows zilch about me or about the people that know whom have been happily married for several decades + 100% faithful. Just because I am not cynical or dour/glass half empty in my outlook and just because I know the couples well whom have been happily married + totally faithful ( yes they have had tough times for whatever reason + had to work at their marriages yet their love has grown stronger over the years) therefore squad's response to me is very patronising indeed. So what am young- 35 soon to be 36 + so what that have only been married for less than 5 years does not mean that my marriage is not meant to last or that know /recognise true love in others when see it! Just because of statistics does not mean that every marriage is to be doomed or that one partner will be unfaithful, far from it- there is the joyous flip side that proves rejoicingly that true love exists( not a Mills & Boon love yet a real kind of soulful True Love). Am not a love sick puppy- my eyes are fully open yet am an optimist, have a Christian strong faith, am determined to make our marriage work come what may now or in future, we are the faithful kind as we only have eyes for one another and we choose to stick with one another through the tough times too as that is what love is all about( we do not believe in the fairytale image of love or marriage yet the one that is sometimes more like a survival course at times). Be quick to say sorry, to keep the past in the past- forgive and forget, be spontaneous, keep the romance alive, never go to bed angry with each other- make up before turn out the light, recognise that it takes two to tango , show appreciation to each other regularly+ to not let a day go without saying you love with another- good for starters. nix-j-c ( never let yourself become cynical please)- love sometimes hurts + our hearts can be broken yet they can be mended to + true love always exists as does hope and faith. Bea :-)

[Beatrice35]

Never let a day go by without saying you love each other, meant to have said :-)
nix-j-c You are too young for marriage or to contemplate that kind of commitment now yet do not let cynics or pessimists ever put you off when the happy time comes- okay, please.
Warm wishes, Bea :-)