What would YOU do?

[mcraig]

So. Here's a wee situation for you. You see someone you have really strong feelings for every weekday, and you're pretty close to them. You know you'll only ever be friends, you understand that. You know that you're going to leave, and that if you do nothing you'll never see this person again. You want to say something to them, suggest keeping in touch as friends, something. But you're not in a position where that would be easy and you don't want to seem a bit weird. You know that if you never see them again you'll be devastated. Do you go for it on the pretence that if you seem weird and you are rejected at least you'll not have to face them again, or do you shy away from talking to them and avoid being rejected and accept the situation?

What are your opinions? Thanks.

[tamborine]

tis not often that people meet 'soul mates' & agreeable friends. Tell the person you will be going & suggest a farewell drink - see where that takes you.

Life's too short to keep emotions to yourself; if you embarrass yourself - you just said off into the sunset and await the new dawn.

[marval]

Personally I would say something, If you leave without saying something you might regret it. How do you know they will think you are weird? their answer might surprise you. But you will never know unless you say something, at least whatever they say you will know how they feel. I think it would be a shame to leave without knowing.

Good luck whatever you do.

[Ice.Maiden]

I agree with tamborine. Years ago, a guy started work at the same place as me. This was 3 months before I was due to leave. We hit it off straight away, and the thought of not seeing him again was making me edgy. On the last day, I went over to him and put a note in his hand, saying that I'd really enjoyed his company and would he care to go for a drink with me. He was delighted to, and we then went on a few dates. Nothing too great came of it, but we remain friends to this day. He came to my wedding, and I went to his. We might not be soul mates, but we ARE very good pals.

[BRIZE]

go for it.. its the only way.......you will end up wondering otherwise........good l uck

[sqad617]

"You know you'll only ever be friends"

Why?

More information please:
1) are you male or female?
2) is your friend male or female)
3) How old are you?
4) How old is your friend.?
5) Is she married or attached?
6) Are you married or attached.?

Will then consider a reply.

[mcraig]

I am female and he is male. Wouldn't like to give out ages but we're roughly the same age. Neither are married or attached (that i know of).

[advicegirl]

Wait. why not ask them out in the first place? Youre saying that you have strong feelings for them but you think youll only ever be friends..why is that? ASK HIM/HER OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[zzxxee]

write a note on your last day and leave it on their desk locker with a little token gift

[China Doll]

Well if you're hankering after more but are 100% certain that nothing will ever come of these feelings then what's the point in keeping them around? Sounds like you'd just be torturing yourself to me.

If you're good friends you'll naturally stay in touch, if you're just holding out for more (and are certain this will never be the case) then I'd just cut the dead wood rather than having a false hope, I think that could be quite painful in the long run.

[Tups]

It's a far greater torture not to know than it is to be rejected. You can get over rejection but you would have to live with not knowing forever!

[sn�gs]

What would I do?

Go down the pub for a few pints of Guinness and a game of Pool ;-)

[Cmitchell]

I agree with Tupps, not knowing would be far worse tan being rejected.

Sorry ZZXXEE but your idea would make anyone look over keen.

Remember First rule of dating, friendly but not over keen!!!!

Good luck hon

[Davethedog]

How do you know you are only ever going to be friends.

If he's gay then it not a problem.

And if hes straight how do you know he doesn't feel the same?

As Tups says nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Trust me on this, if you don't ask you will spend years wondering. Even when the pain passes you will always wonder.