Wife having affair ...

[boogie71071]

My wife of 12 years is having an affair with her lecturer from University. She says it's only sex and that we'd grown apart which is one of the reasons why she did it. She says she wants to stay in the marital home but she has no form of income to keep up payments on it or buy me out. She wants the kids (11 and 16) to stay with her wherever she decides to live but they don't want to. My solicitor - who can't see me until Monday morning - has advised over the phone that the home can either be sold off or for one of us to buy the other out but she won't accept my proposal to buy her out. There are a few questions I have
1. Can she insist that she stays in the marital home even though it will cause upset to the kids?
2. Can she refuse to sell the home?
3. Can she keep refusing my offers to buy her out?
4. Can she stay in the home indefinately, even though financially - and I do exclude the physical upkeep, tidying, etc. from this but accept she's done this until recently - she's hardly contributed - she's had a series of part-time jobs that haven't really lasted whereas touch-wood I've been in reasonably well paid employ? 5. Can she insist the kids move in with her, regardless of what they want?
Thanks in advance