I've lost sexual desire for my girlfriend!

[Tecate]

Me and my girl have been going out for about 6 months and in the beginning I couldn't get enough of her physically. As time went on naturally I wasn't jumpng on her the same as I did. It's now been 2 weeks since we had sex and although she says it's OK,I discussed it with her and admitted that I'm just not as up for it and that it feels the same old and boring. She has clearly been hurt but is such an amazing girl she hasn't really expressed it although she obviousley is and kind of said so by saying how untactful I was. I want to develop our relationship further even more but I'm just not feeling it the same anymore.Any suggestions?

[MWB]

No.

[bazzyman]

Why post then MWB?
If you havn't got a constructive answer to give, then keep your neb out.

HTH?

[MWB]

Because I don't like nasty people who string people along.

Tecate knows the answer already.

Don't hurt this girl anymore.

[No,Knowledge]

3 answers and non of them are of any use.

[No,Knowledge]

5 now!

[squarebear]

Make that 5 answers.

[squarebear]

lol :-)

[Tecate]

Thanks alot for all the great advice people!

[Tecate]

Thanks vibrasphere...finally. I think we still feel strongly about eachother but are maybe just generally in a bit of rut...I still care for her alot but have a hard time showing it physically these days I guess. Thanks again by the way...

[BeatySwalls]

i get like this in any relationship eventually. there is no way around it apart from costumes/ role play but when you are bored after that what is next? swinging? gang bangs? I wish I could tell you some advice but this is a problem for me too. good luck

[pastafreak]

All relationships have highs and lows...it is simply a natural progression. if you are able to talk to each other about this,then their is obviously a certain level of care and commitment.
Sexual intensity is never constant or consistant over the course of a relationship.....maybe it is its changability that either makes or breaks so many couples because they expect it to always be the same...when it can't be.
Keep talking,and give yourselves time.....but only if you are both willing to put the effort in.

[Velvetee]

I think sex in a new relationship is always very intense in the beginning, but once the feelings of lust start to calm down and you start getting to know each other properly, then sex tends to become less frequent.

Your relationship is possibly changing and progressing, where you are becoming more intimate on a mental and emotional level. You say she is an amazing girl and there are obviously many qualities you like about her, which I would think, make for a great longterm relationship. If it's just all about sex and nothing else, then it probably wouldn't last.

I can understand how your comments about it being the same and boring would hurt her deeply. She probably feels you are no longer interested in her. Maybe you just need to experiment more sexually, try different things and vocalise what you both like and want. Sex with the same partner doesn't have to be the same or boring.

[tamborine]

mutual, for her - she's bored!

[Ice.Maiden]

I don't think you've had time to develop a deep emotional level with this person yet. I agree with vibrasphere. I think you were in lust - and it's now wearing off. Best to be friends with someone first, and let things develop at a slower pace. Those are the relationships which usually last the longest, and although you say you want to take the relationship further, you need to discuss your needs and desires. If it's not going to work, you'd be better off ending it.

[pastafreak]

You being a cynic tambo??
You really should be more encouraging.....

[Ice.Maiden]

LOL!!! It's a point though, isn't it? Maybe she IS bored, so hasn't bothered to make things interesting - hence it bores YOU, Tecate!
It usually takes a lot longer than 2 weeks for a couple's sex life to go stale!

[londonlove]

Just leave her alone as MWB said in the first place. You've only been going out with her for a few months and she doesn't deserve that sort of subtle (?) abuse. Go away and let her find someone who fancies her for real. I bet there will be plenty.