has he gone off me?

[blond_law]

My partner and i have been together for 18 months. we had the best sex life up until about 2 months ago. He either says he is tired or when we do have sex he makes it feel like a chore and something that has to be done rather than an intimate act. i know that yor sex life does slow down after a while and its not as mad as at the start of any relationship but its really getting me down. i have asked him whats wrong and if there's anythign he wants to talk about and he says no. How can i try and get things back on track. I have bought toys, games, undies and still no interest!

Many thanks

[Velvetee]

It always seems to be the way, one partner is keener than the other. I wish mine would stop pestering me for sex, I'm just not interested in the slightest and would be happy never to do it again.

Perhaps your Partner is stressed about something, which means sex isn't a priority. He maybe genuinely tired or feeling down.

You've tried talking to him, but unfortunately men tend not to be too open about their feelings. Perhaps you should back off a bit, give him a bit of time and see if things improve, if not then you may need to seek professional help.

[enfable]

If a man gets stressed he want more sex to get it out of his system, so it's not that. You should still be in the fun part a relationship after 18 months.

Sorry, he may be getting it elsewhere, lots do.

[Brinjal]

I am inclined to agree with enfable he may have someone else. But even if that is not the case you need to sort it out one way or another. If you sex drives are at completely different levels it willmake for a very miserable relationship for both of you. You dont want to get into a lifetime relationship you where you are not happy. You willbecome very resentful and frustrated.

[happyone2]

im wondering if there is anything that happened 2 months ago that could have changed things ??

[VHG]

He is having an affair.