Am I being paranoid

[homegirl]

I think my hubby is seeing someone else. He started a new job nightshift and after a year he started coming in and his shirts were reeking of perfume. He said it must be from one of the woman who wears too much to work. He then started only using his mobile when he was out of the house, he says he can,t send text messsages yet the bill for the phone shows that he has sent mesages to the same number. He has also phoned this womans house from the pub at night when he was out. I know this cos she stays near his work and it is a different dial code. He has started to come home later in the mornings saying he has extra work to do. When I confronted him and asked if he was seeing anyone he denied it and says him and this woman are just good friends. I,m driving myself crazy, We have been married 25 years, he did stray in the past but it was a long time ago. don,t really have anyone I can talk to about this so would appreciate your opinions.

[tamborine]

hi sqad....thanx ;) me, controversial - as always!

[Bbbananas]

shelby - brilliant ingenious idea. I shall bear that in mind for the future, should I ever need it.

Agree with sqad homegirl - what's good for the goose is more than good enough for the gander (or vice versa). Go get yourself covered in after shave.

[shelby45]

Haha,Vibra, I had to come up with something with the ex boyfriend because it was seriously making me ill worrying all the time. Homegirl is home alone while he's working, it must be driving her crazy. He done it before and leopard and spots and all that!!!!
Women will always get the upper hand because we are much more sharper minded!! Catch him out, thats what I say, bang to rights, up against the wall, red handed and all that jazz!!

[Sqad]

Shelby....well established method BUT will only work for a short period of time as when they meet, the trap will be discovered.

Now, if you were having a "bit on the side" you would disguise her name in contacts i.e George, garage or Peter and she would have to check them all to get the correct number that she sees repeated on the bill....allegedly.

[4getmenot]

shelbys idea is fantastic!! Do it!!

[shelby45]

sauq: homegirl has the bill with all the repeated texts on, she has the number, all she got to do is start typing it in his fone and her name will come up....voilar!!
And then by the time the two culprits meet, homegirl will know for sure and he will be cr*pping his brand new boxers!!! (that are probably doused in aftershave)!!

[Sqad]

vibra........yeah?????

[4getmenot]

doesnt really need to be a long period of time as surely she would be able to tell if he is cheating from the msgs sqad

[Bbbananas]

of course he is....

home girl - revenge is a dish best eaten cold, however if I were you I'd go out there & get myself a good old Vindaloo.

[ummmm]

I think you know deep down. I knew my Ex was cheating because he kept leaving his phone in the car etc. I checked his phone bill....called the number and chucked him out. All within a month. I didn't like him very much though so it was easy for me.

[Sqad]

vibra...I agree, but sometime the facts could only be established by surgical intrusion.

Diagnosis 99% of the time made by signs, symptoms and the diagnosis is clear.......why? .....cus you have seen it so many times before.

[cazzz1975]

sqad...difficult for you to believe I know but some people dont use the excuse of their partners infidelity as an excuse for them to mess around, some people want to be faithful.

you are not one of these people so I can understand why you would find the concept laughable ;D

[Leggalyblond]

hes hiding the sausage
and i reckon the women at work are gettiing the benefit


confront or ignore it

[homegirl]

Hi everyone I couldn,t get on the computer today because our son was on bebo all day. I ,m not in his ear all the time vibrasphere I,ve worked with men and women and know how good frienships can develop at work. Anyway I calmly sat down this morning and asked him to be honest with me, he said he was embaressed to phone the girls at work when I was there, when I asked about his text messages he said he had forwarded on a joke that he had been sent. I,m afraid I got really upset and the tears started, I don,t usually act like this in fact I am still shaking inside. H e said I was feeling like this because of tmy age. So I have decided that I will find out for definate in the next 2 weeks. I have a little something coming in the mail that will find out for me. the joy of ebay. I will have to do this or I will end up a nervous wreck. If I have been wrong then I will eat humble pie, but there is something inside tells me I,m not. Thanks everyone for your suggestions and support, the idea from shelby is great dont know if I will be able to do it or not but when I get his mobile to myself then I will be giving it a try. I feel I need to know for certain beforeI I do anything rash. Will have to go now but will log back on later tonight ., thanks again everyone

[Sqad]

cazz....please be fair....where have I said:

you are not one of these people so I can understand why you would find the concept laughable ;D

One of what people?

Please don't talk down to me and explain what you mean with examples of what I have said.

[shelby45]

homegirl: did i read it right?? did he say that 'it was your age'??????!!!!!!!!!! TYPICAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This statement alone makes me believe he is guilty, next he will start telling you your mad and paranoid, believe me!!!! Why did he not send you the funny text huh??????? And your absolutely right, it will make you ill with fretting and worrying, good luck in finding out the truth after 25 years, you deserve nothing less!! x

[chattykathy]

Let us know how you're getting on, Homegirl. Hope it's good news x